In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Holly J. Moore of the Made for Moore podcast to discuss how parents can approach conversations about sex and sexuality with their children in a way that is honest, ongoing, and shame-free. They explore why discomfort doesn't have to be a barrier, how to begin these conversations early and keep them going, and how offering values around sexuality — rather than fear or shame — empowers children to make informed, confident, and integrity-driven choices as they grow.

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Brad and Kate have been working to understand themselves and each other better, using the Enneagram to better understand how they each respond to stress and disconnection. They've been talking more openly and defending less—but when tensions rise, Brad moves toward action and physical closeness, hoping connection will bring relief while Kate pulls back, wanting to feel emotionally secure before opening up. This leaves Brad feeling rejected and Kate worried that intimacy is more about sex itself than truly being with her. Because Brad seems steady on the surface and Kate is openly emotional, it's easy for both of them to assume she's the problem—but they're equally dysregulated, just in different ways.

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When neurodivergence is part of the picture, it's easy to get lost in what your partner isn't doing, or to lean on a diagnosis to justify your impact on the other. But a real partnership requires taking full responsibility for the gifts and burdens of the mind and body you were born with.

In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Kamden Hainsworth of the Busy Brained Saint podcast to talk about what it looks like for both partners in a neurodiverse marriage to show up as whole people — owning what is theirs, releasing what isn't, and finding more freedom than they expected on the other side.

Listen to learn more about:

• What it means to take full responsibility for the gifts and burdens of the mind and body you were born with — for both partners
• How a diagnosis can build genuine compassion — or quietly become a way to avoid growth
• The one-up/one-down dynamic that takes over neurodiverse marriages — and how both partners sustain it
• Why releasing the need to change or manage your spouse is what actually opens the door to real intimacy
• How truth — not false hope — is what gives couples the clarity to choose each other well
  
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In this episode, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins the Date Your Spouse team to talk about what couples can do to bring a sense of aliveness to their marriage. She challenges the idea that going along to keep the peace is an act of love, explains why duty-based sex quietly destroys desire, and offers a surprisingly simple practice any couple can try TONIGHT to create more intimacy and connection.

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In this episode, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins Dan Purcell of the Get Your Marriage On podcast to discuss her book That We Might Have Joy and the role of eros energy—the aliveness that emerges when couples stop running their marriages from fear, control, and ego. Through stories from the book—like Samuel, whose fear of sexual feelings kept him stuck, and Bradley, whose relentless pursuit of sex was driven by shame—Dr. Jennifer shows how sexual repression doesn’t make us more spiritual. It just keeps us fragmented.

Together, they explore why sexual integration—not suppression—is what leads to greater freedom, strength, and intimacy.

In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife uses questions submitted by listeners to drive a discussion about how we can create transformation in ourselves and in our relationships.

Listen to the full episode to learn:

• Why most resolutions fail (and what actually creates lasting change)
• How to navigate the discomfort of growth without retreating to old patterns
• The power of self-confrontation
  
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In this NEW episode, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins Jody Moore of the Better Than Happy Podcast to explore the crucial difference between compliance and true goodness. They discuss the difference between being kind and being compliant, why prioritizing other people’s comfort over your own integrity is harmful, and what your resentments can teach you about yourself and the way you show up in relationships.

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In this conversation, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Dr. Justin Coulson of the Happy Families Podcast to discuss how our ideas about gender roles undermine genuine connection. The conversation unpacks why women's desire shuts down when sexuality is framed as caregiving, why tolerated sex creates resentment on both sides, and what has to shift if you want to move from dutiful encounters to the kind of passion and intimacy you're both craving.

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In this conversation with Taylor Church of the Of Stone and Clay Podcast, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife walks through her own marriage journey to illustrate what relational growth looks like. She shares how marriage revealed parts of herself she didn't want to see and how learning to stay in honest conflict has helped her relationship grow over the years. She also discusses how couples unknowingly co-create the dynamics they resent, and what it means to actually love and value your partner for who they are. 

In this conversation with Taylor Church of the Of Stone and Clay Podcast, Dr. Jennifer draws from her new book and research on sexuality to explore how we move from the magic of falling in love to the deeper work of creating lasting intimacy. She offers wisdom on navigating difference, sustaining desire, and why the challenges of marriage are not necessarily failures but invitations to grow.

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

• Sexual integration and what it means for intimate relationships
• How shame shapes our experience of sexuality
• Why vibrant living matters more than physical perfection for attraction
• The difference between accommodation and genuine choice in intimacy
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In this NEW episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Tammy Hill of the Live Your Why podcast to discuss libido and sexual desire. They explore how biology, medications, aging, stress, and hormones can influence our sexual desire—but emphasize that the meanings we carry about sex, marriage, duty, and self-worth are usually the most powerful drivers of all.

Dr. Finlayson-Fife also responds to three common scenarios:

• a husband who uses data and calendars to justify his sexual entitlement

• a man who responds to sexual differences with persistent whining

• a mother overwhelmed by young children who feels too “touched out” for sex

In each example, she offers insight into how shifting the underlying meaning—not just the behavior—can help couples create a more grounded and mutually satisfying sexual dynamic.

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In this NEW episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife answers audience questions about common extended-family challenges, including enmeshed parent–child relationships, triangulation, intrusive or overstepping in-laws, sibling competitiveness, and families that resist change. She talks about how couples can stay steady in these situations by being clear about how they want to function, holding to their integrity, and choosing honest, grounded ways of relating—regardless of the pressures around them.

In this NEW episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Chris Rich of The Mixed-Faith Relationship Podcast to unpack where sexual shame comes from and how it shows up in adulthood. She explains how shame turns toxic when it convinces us that our flaws make us unworthy, and she offers a clearer, kinder way forward—one that helps us accept our embodied nature, integrate our sexuality, and relate to ourselves with more honesty and compassion.

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

• What sexual shame actually is—and how it develops

• How childhood experiences shape comfort with desire

• Why many of us confuse anxiety with “God’s judgment”

• The difference between healthy inhibition and toxic shame

• How both repression and indulgence keep us stuck

• What genuine sexual integration looks like

• How to foster healthier, shame-free conversations with our children

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Cuando no estamos de acuerdo con nuestra pareja, solemos recurrir a comportamientos que causan dolor y frustración, en lugar de esforzarnos por encontrar respuestas más productivas y colaborativas, aunque a menudo parezcan contraintuitivas.

En este episodio, la Dra. Finlayson-Fife se une a la coach de relaciones Anne Nelson para hablar sobre cómo las relaciones pueden crecer y prosperar, incluso ante el conflicto y las diferencias.

In this NEW episode, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife answers questions from listeners wrestling with whether to stay or leave their marriages. She explores why peace doesn’t come from certainty, but from the courage to act with integrity—choosing what we believe is most right, even when both paths carry loss.

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In this episode, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins Lauren Yarrow of The Blonde Apologist to offer a powerful reframe for those struggling to understand or navigate pornography—whether in their own lives, in marriage, while dating, or as parents. Drawing on insights from That We Might Have Joy, Dr. Finlayson-Fife explains how growth doesn’t come through control or avoidance, but through honesty, self-understanding, and integrity.

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In this NEW episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Monica Tanner to share insights from That We Might Have Joy and explore how conflict in marriage isn’t a sign that something’s gone wrong, but part of the very process through which deeper intimacy and peace take shape.

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In this NEW episode, hosted by Rhonda Farr, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife draws from Chapter 3 of her book That We Might Have Joy to unpack how repression drives obsession, why intimacy is so difficult to tolerate, and how agency and integrity can open the way to real communion in marriage.

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Many Latter-day Saints grow up learning that the body and pleasure are threats to spirituality—that sexuality is something to fear or control. These teachings were often given with good intentions, but they were also misinformed, and they have made it harder for many to find peace in marriage and within themselves.

In this NEW episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins the hosts of the All Things for Good Podcast to explore how our own theology, rightly understood, offers a far richer view: that the body is a spiritual gift, and that sex can become the sacrament of marriage—a way of knowing God, ourselves, and each other with more honesty, love, and joy.

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And if you’ve ever wished Dr. Finlayson-Fife could coach you through these important conversations (and honestly, who hasn’t?), this episode is for you.

In this conversation, Dr. Finlayson-Fife offers practical guidance for parents who want to raise sexually healthy, thoughtful, and confident kids.

You’l learn more about:

• How to foster a relationship where your kids feel safe bringing you their questions and concerns

• Setting limits and expectations without shaming or controlling

• Supporting a child who is questioning their sexual orientation

• Navigating conversations when you and your spouse don’t see eye-to-eye

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• Why pornography becomes a counterfeit refuge

• How cultural and family messages fuel shame / secrecy 

• Why secrecy keeps you stuck

• What integration actually looks like and how to work toward it
  
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In this NEW episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife unpacks why women so often struggle with desire and and what they can do to cultivate a sexual relationship that feels alive and worth wanting. 

Listen to the full episode to learn:

• Why you can’t force yourself into desire

• How duty-based meanings suffocate women’s eroticism

• The crucial differences between men’s and women’s sexuality

• Why freedom and authenticity are the lifeblood of passion

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In this powerful conversation, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Carol Lynn Pearson, Stephen Carter, and Dan Wotherspoon to talk about the real purpose of marriage—and why the challenges we face in it are what drives our personal and spiritual growth.

They discuss how marriage can stretch us in the best ways—pushing us to confront ourselves, to move through conflict instead of away from it, and to build something real and lasting in the process.

In the episode, you'll learn more about: 

• Why conflict is often a doorway to intimacy

• How monogamy pressures us to evolve

• What Mormon culture gets wrong—and right—about marriage

• Why creating a strong marriage is a spiritual process

If you’ve ever wondered why marriage feels so hard sometimes, and whether it’s supposed to be easier—this episode will meet you right where you are.

*In the episode,Carol Lynn Pearson's poem "The Steward" is referenced
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In this NEW episode, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins Monica Packer of the About Progress podcast to talk about what it means to be a thoughtful changemaker in your relationship. They explore how to recognize when you’ve been over-accommodating—and how avoiding conflict or ignoring your own desires can quietly erode both your well-being and the strength of the partnership.

Dr. Finlayson-Fife teaches that change begins by owning your role in the current dynamic—and using that clarity to engage in honest, collaborative conversations with your partner.  

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In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife responds to listener questions about how traits associated with autism and ADHD shape the dynamics of marriage. Drawing from her own life and work, she explores what it means to love someone whose brain works differently than yours—and how couples can create more peace, closeness, and partnership across those differences.

* Please excuse the poor audio quality—the recording was not great, but the content more than makes up for it, so we are publishing anyway!

In this powerful conversation with Rhonda Farr, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife challenges those inherited ideas and reframes strength—not as certainty or control—but as the courage to look honestly at yourself. The courage to tolerate feedback, consider your impact, and use discomfort as a catalyst for growth.

This episode also explores how men can navigate vulnerable conversations with greater maturity—especially around painful dynamics like feeling undesired or unchosen in marriage.

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

• The difference between immature and mature masculinity

• Why so many men feel unchosen—and what they can do about it

• How the need to be seen as good can keep us from actually being good

• The essential role of discomfort in love, leadership, and growth

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In this Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins Greg and Amy Langford of the Undressing Intimacy podcast to talk about the painful reality many couples face: when you want more honesty, connection, and intimacy—and your partner doesn't seem to want the same. 

This episode dives into the difficult soul work of learning to tolerate what we can’t control, teases out the difference between patience and clinging to false hope, and offers guidance on how we can handle disappointment in our relationship with maturity. 

Click HERE to learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife's relationship and sexuality courses for couples!

In this new episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Kurt Francom of the Leading Saints podcast to talk about how church leaders can best support their congregation in matters of sexuality—not by avoiding the topic or using fear-based messaging, but by offering a more hopeful, honest, and empowering vision of how our God-given sexuality can bless and enrich our lives. 

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

• What healthy leadership around sexuality can look like

• Why fear and shame don’t help people make better choices

• How to talk with youth in ways that build confidence and self-respect

• How healthy sexuality strengthens faith, integrity, and intimacy

In this episode, Dr. Jennifer answers questions from our Facebook Group about the role of fantasy in long-term relationships. She explores why fantasy often feels taboo, and how—when grounded in morality and friendship—it can become a meaningful tool for strengthening intimacy and deepening connection.

The repeated use—and the cycle of disclosure that follows—has taken a toll on their marriage.  David is upfront when he slips—but this is in the form of turning to Alexa for forgiveness and reassurance. When Alexa distances following his disclosure, he often grows impatient.

In this episode of Room for Two, Dr. Finlayson-Fife works with David and Alexa to better understand what’s keeping them stuck. She offers David a new perspective—that he would benefit from acknowledging the part of him that wants the escape of pornography, and that until he confronts that reality, genuine change will remain out of reach.

Subscribe to Room for Two to listen to the FULL episode (and the rest of the David and Alexa series) 

When sex becomes a duty to fulfill, a performance to manage, or a tool to reassure a partner, it loses the very energy that makes it feel alive. The pressure to produce intimacy, validation, or an orgasm can quietly unravel the conditions that desire needs in order to thrive.

In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife uses questions from her audience to unpack why so many of us struggle to feel ease and desire in our sexual relationship—and what we can do to can create a more soulful and passionate connection with our partner.

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In this powerful conversation, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Amy Watkins Jensen of Women on the Stand to discuss how women can engage in meaningful and honest conversations about their experiences in the Church and how daring to do so is what will allow us to create more honest and inclusive faith communities.

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If you are ready to rethink your relationship to desire and sexuality, JOIN US for the Art of Desire Workshop in Gilbert, Arizona! Use the code DESIRE to SAVE $100 on your ticket! 

When you create a relationship with your spouse where you feel free to be who you are, free from managing their sense of self, and free to show your strength, sex becomes a place you want to be —a place of ease.

In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife answers questions about female arousal and orgasm. She discusses the impact of societal and personal beliefs on women's sexual experiences, the connection between emotional freedom and sexual well-being, and offers practical advice for overcoming common challenges women face such as performance anxiety, self-judgment, and the aftermath of sexual trauma.

To learn more about this topic, enroll in Dr. Finlayson-Fife's Art of Desire course! Or, better yet, join us for one of our upcoming Art of Desire Events! 

These are often people who appear most put together on the outside—the responsible student, the dedicated churchgoer, the child who carries the family’s expectations. With little space to process stress or be truly known, pornography becomes a tempting, private escape from the pressures of life. But over time, this creates a growing divide between their public persona and private reality, reinforcing shame and deepening their sense of fracture and isolation.

This pattern often carries into marriage, where rather than risk the exposures of real intimacy and connection with a spouse, porn continues to be an easy escape. 

In this NEW episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Taylor Chambers to discuss how we can turn challenges related to pornography into opportunities for personal and relational growth. They explore the systemic issues that contribute to porn use, the impact that unwanted porn use has on marriages, and how we can use conflict and crisis in our relationships as opportunities to learn more about ourselves and create meaningful growth in our capacity for real intimacy.

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In the episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife discusses the Zach and Kelly Room for Two series. Subscribe to Room for Two to listen to the entire 7-episode series! Dr. Finlayson-Fife also mentions her upcoming Art of Loving Retreat in St. George, Utah. You can join the interest list for that retreat HERE.

- The impact of anxiety / depression (including medication) on desire  

- Agency and choice in sexuality

- "Fighting Fair" in marriage 

- Prioritizing partnership

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In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Tina Gosney of the "Coaching Your Family Relationships" podcast to discuss some of the challenges that parents face when their child steps away from family faith traditions and how parents can best support and love their children, even when their worldviews diverge.

In this NEW episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Christi Davis [host of the “Liking the People You Love” podcast] to explore how parents can support teens through their turbulent transition into adulthood. They discuss how parents can create thoughtful, value-based guidelines around sexuality—particularly on topics like modesty and masturbation—that prioritize the child’s well-being. And how parents can foster their teen’s ability to make self-directed decisions driven by their highest values rather than fear, shame, or conformity.

In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife answers audience questions about the impact of sexual trauma on relationships and well-being. She explores the body’s self-protective response, the impact on our sense of self, and how those who have experienced trauma can move toward healing.

Resources mentioned in the episode:

"Living at the Bottom of the Ocean" [Dr. Schnarch's final manuscript]
* The Body Keeps the Score
* Brain Talk
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* What resentment is trying to teach us

* Body image during pregnancy

You can watch the recording of this conversation on our YouTube channel HERE.

Because, in a very real sense, it is. 

When we are early in our development (which most of us are) our primary concern is feeling a sense of safety and then belonging in our social groups. So when our thinking no longer aligns with our faith community (or family, or spouse), it pushes on the very question of who we are and whether or not we still belong in our group.

These are uncomfortable questions but ones that are fundamental to our moral and spiritual growth.

When we are courageous enough to sort out our own relationship with faith and God we can forge a better internal compass and a deeper relationship to our own integrity. It is in our willingness to live honestly, even when we risk disappointing others, that we can develop a faith robust enough to withstand the complexities of living and loving in an imperfect world.

During this hopeful discussion, Dr. Finlayson-Fife addressed questions from her audience about faith development, how to find peace when our thinking doesn't align with our group, and how our understanding of faith and relationship to spirituality can change over the course of a lifetime.

You can watch the recording of this discussion HERE.

* Rebuilding trust after betrayal

* Understanding compulsive sexual behavior

* Honesty and accountability in relationships

* Male sexuality

* The problem with perfectionism

In the presentation, Dr. Finlayson-Fife discusses how we can bridge divides with those who think differently by showing genuine care, listening with humility, and seeking to understand others' experiences, using their perspectives to broaden our own.

Dr. Finlayson-Fife emphasizes that, while we cannot make people think the way we think, we CAN care about each other despite our differences. This connection not only expands our own understanding, but strengthens our ability to work to solve our shared challenges, which is key to thriving in our families, communities, and society

In this hour-long Q&A session, Dr. Finlayson-Fife answers questions from those feeling unchosen, isolated, and disconnected in their most important relationship. 

Listen in as Dr. Finlayson-Fife answers the following:

* Is loneliness a normal part of marriage?

* What are reasonable expectations for emotional connection with a spouse?

* How can I create more connection when my spouse doesn’t make any efforts?

* Can an "okay" marriage ever become a passionate one?

* What can I do if I feel unseen, unliked, unappreciated, and unchosen in my marriage?

You can watch the recording of this Q&A session HERE. 

Too often, we enter marriage with expectations of what it will provide for us, without fully understanding the promise we are actually making—to love someone who is dramatically different from us.

When we first fall in love, this seems easy enough, but as we face the difficulties that come when two individuals start the real work of creating a life together, resentment, anger, and even hostility can creep in.

In this NEW episode Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Dan Purcell of the Get Your Marriage On! podcast to answer the question of what it means to really cherish a spouse. Dr. Finlayson-Fife's answer leads to a beautiful discussion on the importance of gratitude, what love is and what it is not, and the impact that deliberate cherishing has in our lives and in our relationships. The episode offers practical advice on how to live in gratitude, be more present in relationships, and navigate conflicts with integrity and love. 

Listen to the full episode to learn more about: 

• The difference between needing, wanting, and cherishing a spouse
• How marriage reveals our own immaturities 
• Why cherishing requires courage
• How to move beyond feelings of resentment and entitlement 
• What it means to actively choose your partner 

Listen to learn more about: 

* Why in-person events are such a powerful way to learn the principles taught by Dr. Finlayson-Fife

* What you can expect if you attend an in-person retreat alone or with your spouse

* If retreats are appropriate for post-Mormons and couples in mixed-faith marriages 

* A breakdown of the material covered during each of Dr. Finlayson-Fife's upcoming retreats 

* The stages of sexual development (and why sex gets better with age!)

In this NEW episode of Moving Thru Momlife, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins host Lindsey Taylor to discuss how women can stay connected to their bodies, desires, and sexuality throughout every age and stage of motherhood and how maintaining this important connection will provide them with a much-needed source of strength.

At the beginning of the episode, Jennifer talks about her mother's experience taking dance classes later in life, you can watch a short film about that explores the story more in-depth HERE.

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And while the prospect of talking to kids about sex can feel daunting, these conversations—no matter how imperfect—make it clear to our children that we care about them, are invested in their wellbeing, and can handle discussing difficult topics with them.

In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Andee Martineau of the Connect Method Parenting Podcast to share valuable insights on how parents can foster an ongoing, healthy, and honest dialogue with their children about sex and how doing so will empower them to make informed, confident, and integrity-driven choices around sexuality. For a deeper exploration on these topics, enroll in Dr. Finlayson-Fife's recently updated How to Talk to Your Kids About Sex course!

 Dr. Finlayson-Fife will also be discussing this topic at the upcoming Restore Conference-- CLICK HERE and use code RESTORE20 to save!

And Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s Art of Desire course was created to help women SEE and understand the cultural messaging that has shaped their relationships to themselves, their sexuality, and to God in both positive and negative ways. 

In this NEW episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Kattie Mount of the Marriage on a Tightrope Podcast to discuss the upcoming Safely Gathered Retreat, where she will be addressing some of the limiting messages that many women have received and offering a new and expansive perspective, one that invites them to create a stronger, more sustaining relationship with themselves, their desires, and their sexuality.

After the initial disorganization of the request, Diane settled herself and realized that, even if the marriage ended, her life would go on. She would be okay. But, as empowering as this realization was, it was in facing the real possibility of losing the marriage that she recognized just how much she actually wanted to CHOOSE the marriage. To choose Jack. As difficult as their relationship had been, Diane was waking up to just how much she wanted to work out a life WITH Jack. 

With renewed commitment, Jack and Diane have been making progress in recent months. Jack has been more open and honest, and Diane has been working to untangle her thoughts from Jack's and to clarify her own desires. 

Both Jack and Diane want a better sexual relationship, but Diane worries that their differing definitions of "better" might be a dealbreaker for Jack.

In this episode of Room for Two, Dr. Finlayson-Fife helps Jack and Diane explore and better understand their sexual dynamic. They discuss Diane’s initial excitement about sex, how their honeymoon’s brief difficulties fractured her perception of her sexual self, and how her initial self criticism has continued to impact their sexual dynamic. Dr. Finlayson-Fife helps Diane see that despite her recent growth, her continued focus on pleasing Jack is standing in the way of her actually loving him. Dr. Finlayson-Fife teaches that the key to moving forward is for Diane to decide who she wants to be in her life and marriage, independent of the expectations of others. 

It can be difficult for couples to know how to navigate forward in the aftermath of a disclosure or discovery of this type of deception, but Dr. Finlayson-Fife has stabilizing resources available to help.

During this Q&A session, Dr. Finlayson-Fife addressed questions from her audience on the topic of intimate deception (including emotional or physical infidelity, pornography use, financial deception, etc.). 

If you are interested in learning more about this topic, consider purchasing Dr. Finlayson-Fife's newest mini-course Understanding Intimate Deception.

Those around us, including our children, have an incredible ability to map our minds. They “track” our actions, body language, facial expressions, and tone to understand our emotions, beliefs, and values, including our investment in them. In fact, the majority of our communication happens at this non-verbal level.

What we say matters, of course, but the meaning of what we are saying comes from far more than just the words we speak. 

In this new episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Heidi Benjaminson of the Confidence Coaching podcast to discuss mind mapping in parent-child relationships. They explore what our kids are mapping about us, how these mapped messages influence their perceptions and behaviors, and what we can do if course correction is needed.

* Sexuality and Morality

* Intimacy in Marriage

* Challenges in Emotional Connection

* Navigating Sexual Desire Discrepancies

* The Impact of Pornography on Relationships

*Self-Respect and Intimacy

If you found this podcast episode helpful, you would LOVE taking Dr. Finlayson-Fife's The Art of Loving course for men! In this course, Dr. Finlayson-Fife will be unpacking the damaging messages our culture has offered to men about masculinity and sexuality and then discussing how men can move forward and create a healthier relationship with themselves, a more balanced relationship with their sexuality, and a more fulfilling sexual connection with their spouse. You can learn more about this course HERE.

To participate in future Q&A sessions, join our Facebook Group HERE.

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* The effects of childhood sexual abuse on adult sexuality

If you would like to learn more about these topics, consider enrolling in Dr. Finlayson-Fife's Art of Desire course for women!

You can watch the video of this conversation HERE.

But tangling ourselves up with our children this way is not only a recipe for disappointment and frustration (on both sides), it also stands in the way of REALLY loving and accepting our children for who they are.

The sooner we recognize how little control we actually have over our children, the sooner we can let go of the fantasy that they prove or disprove our sufficiency (and the sooner we can get to work ACTUALLY loving them). To love our children is to see and value them for the unique individuals they are and offer our best to them.

As humbling and refining of a practice parenting is, it is even more so for those who face the unique challenges and gifts of raising a child with special needs.

In this NEW episode of Navigating the Spectrum, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Michelle Portlock to discuss her personal experience with parenting a neurodivergent child. The discussion covers the importance of compassion (for yourself, your spouse, your child, and your circumstances), and thoughts about how parents can work together to reduce anxiety / stress, improve communication, and foster a nurturing, supportive relationship with each other and their child(ren).

**You can learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife's How to Talk To Your Kids About Sex Course HERE**

* Self-Deception
* Intimacy vs Closeness
* Important considerations post-disclosure
* Trust vs Trustworthiness

If you are interested in learning more about this topic, consider enrolling in Dr. Finlayson-Fife's newest mini-course Understanding Intimate Deception.

And these days it is easier than ever to avoid the work of connection by distracting ourselves with screens.

Access to the entire world in the palms of our hands has tremendous benefits, of course, but all too often we use technology as a way to escape our lives and relationships. As nice as it sounds to not face difficult realities head-on, when we avoid, we limit our growth and ability to connect with others.

It’s very challenging to find the middle ground—to use technology to enrich and expand our lives, but to not be indulgent with it. And, as difficult as it is to manage this balance for ourselves, it is even more challenging to help our teens achieve a balanced, informed, and beneficial relationship with screens.

In this NEW episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife discusses with Crystal (@theparenting coach) how parents can help their children navigate the complicated online world. She discusses the key to empowering teens to make wise decisions lies in facilitating our children’s self-authoring – of thinking about the lives they want to create and assessing whether their actions are in line with the person they hope to become.

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

* The impact of pornography, social media, and screen use on the developing brain, relationships, and self-esteem
* The importance of normalizing sexual development (especially the draw of sexual imagery)

*  Tools for creating and maintaining healthy screen habits (for teens and parents!)

* How parental coddling limits development

* Tips for approaching difficult conversations without fear and shame.

* Discussing healthy sexuality with teens  in a shame-free and productive way

For a deeper dive on this topic on self-authoring and healthy sexuality, consider enrolling in Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s How to Talk to Your Kids About Sex Course! This powerful course helps parents know how to foster their child’s ability to self-author throughout every age and stage of development!

Many of us were taught that if we followed the rules we could avoid the pain and frustration of making mistakes. And while it is true that leaning on the wisdom of others and making wise decisions can prevent suffering, none of us are exempt from the mistake-making process.

Because making mistakes isn’t an aberration from the plan, it is a process that is foundational to it. Mistakes, by design, are how we learn. 

As with all growth, mistake-making is an uncomfortable process. When our choices result in pain and suffering for ourselves or others, we can use the experience to learn and increase our wisdom or we can stay stuck in unproductive regret or simmering resentment. 

In this powerful discussion, Dr. Finlayson-Fife teases out the difference between regret, resentment, and remorse and offers clarity on what these unpleasant emotions can teach us about ourselves and the way we are showing up in our lives and relationships.

You can watch the recording of conversation HERE.

You can learn more about Room for Two, Dr. Finlayson-Fife's couples' coaching podcast, HERE. 

When we need the validation of our spouse, we severely limit our ability to be collaborative partners and parents.

Growth and collaboration require a willingness to set our egos aside enough to consider differing perspectives and uncomfortable truths about ourselves. When our ego runs the show, we care more about proving we are right than working together to find a shared solution. 

In this NEW conversation with Crystal of The Parenting Coach Podcast, Dr. Finlayson-Fife discusses how we can create healthier, more collaborative partnerships even when our partner is not invested in creating positive change.

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

* Resentment and what it can teach us
* The power of gratitude

* Navigating disagreements with wisdom and maturity 

*The problem with validation seeking
* Improving relationships unilaterally
* How to talk to children about sexuality / pornography

You can learn more about Crystal HERE. 

Their marriage started out happily enough. They were young college students and enjoyed each other a lot during their first few years together. But things changed when TJ started graduate school during an economic downturn. TJ felt a tremendous amount of anxiety about his financial future, given the dim prospects for most students at the time. Competition was fierce and in TJ’s determination to ensure his family’s economic stability, he dedicated himself to his studies, leaving little time or emotional bandwidth for anything else, including Ashley.

This period of limited connection was difficult for Ashley, and it persisted long after graduate school and into TJ’s high-demand career. While disappointed at first, eventually Ashley shifted her focus away from the marriage and created a comfortable, happy, and fulfilling life as a friend and mother. 

To the outsider, TJ and Ashley’s relationship may look idyllic–TJ excelling professionally, Ashley busily involved with friends and her community, both invested and caring parents– but their marriage is much more brittle than meets the eye. Resentment and hostility have been simmering under the surface for more than a decade with TJ feeling unappreciated and unacknowledged for the sacrifices he has made to provide for his family and Ashley feeling neglected and unnoticed (except when TJ is wanting sexual attention).

In this episode of Room for Two, Dr. Finlayson-Fife helps the couple think through the long term trajectory of their marriage and how they are undermining their current and future happiness by functioning in such a non-collaborative way. She helps Ashley see the rejection that permeates her interactions with TJ and teaches that the path forward is to stop walling and avoiding and to start looking honestly at herself, her real desires for the relationship, and her role in the lack of intimacy in the marriage.

Be sure to subscribe to Room for Two TODAY to listen to the full episode! 

Both are difficult.

Both involve discomfort.

Both require time, persistence, and patience.

And both are easiest when we have a motivation that propels us through the discomfort.

Fear, self-hatred, and compliance with external expectations are poor motivators. Living according to our higher selves and striving to embody what we value are much stronger motivators! 

Our ability to grow, develop, and live in line with our higher selves hinges upon our willingness to look truthfully at ourselves and our circumstances, and make choices from a deeper internal authority.

In this NEW episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Amber Brueseke of Biceps After Babies Radio to discuss the important role that self-honesty and self-definition play in our relationship to our bodies as well as in our emotional, spiritual, and relational development. 

* The Pursuer / Distancer dynamic
* Addressing conflict with honesty and compassion

If you would like to learn more about this topic, consider enrolling in Dr. Finlayson-Fife's Enhancing Sexual Intimacy course!

Meanings that expand our sense of self and make us feel alive (like freedom and choice) increase our desire, while meanings that constrict us (like obligation and shame) shut down our desire and kill any chance of us having a passionate, fulfilling experience.

Recently, I joined Tammy Hill of the Live Your Why Podcast to discuss the meanings that keep many of us from fully experiencing the joy of our sexuality and what we can do to shift these common, but problematic meaning frames and create something better.

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

* Reconciling spirituality and sexuality
* The importance of freedom and choice
* Problematic meaning frames
* The art of surrender / receiving

For a deeper dive on working through problematic meanings around sexuality, consider enrolling in Dr. Finlayson-Fife's Enhancing Sexual Intimacy course!

These difficult realities come in many forms throughout a lifetime—unmet expectations, unfulfilled hopes and dreams, shifts in belief, broken promises, illness, and ultimately, death. 

Facing acute loss is a harrowing and sobering experience, in part because it wakes us up to just how little control we have over our circumstances. But being compassionate towards ourselves in the process and finding the courage to keep moving forward, even when the path is riddled with uncertainty and vulnerability, is a beautiful form of faith. When we take the disappointment and loss that life hands us and use our difficult experiences to become kinder, more compassionate people, we increase our ability to deeply cherish the good around us, and we increase our capacity for joy. 

This NEW episode is the audio from a Q&A session that Dr. Finlayson-Fife hosted on the topic of loss and grief. During the conversation, Dr. Finlayson-Fife took questions about all different types of losses including miscarriage, death, broken promises, and frustrated expectations.

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

* Intimacy after loss

* Mixed-faith marriages 

* Intimacy after miscarriage 

* Finding the courage to reinvest in life after loss

You can watch the full recording of this Q&A session HERE.

You can learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife's new mini-courses HERE.  

While men and women may express their anxieties about sexuality differently, the truth is that men have just as difficult of a time coming to peace with their sexuality as women do. 

In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Tammy Hill of the Live Your Why Podcast for a discussion on masculinity and how our cultural messaging has impacted men’s ability to accept themselves as sexual beings. 

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

* Sexual shame

* Performance anxiety 

* Desire discrepancies 

* Masturbation and Pornography

* Erectile dysfunction

* Being tolerated vs. being received sexually

* Creating more intimate relationships

If you found this episode helpful and want to learn more, consider enrolling in Dr. Finlayson-Fife's Art of Loving course for men! 

When we disagree with our spouse, we often go to behaviors that lead to hurt and frustration rather than making a concerted effort to engage often counter-intuitive, but more productive and collaborative responses.

In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins relationship coach Anne Nelson to discuss how relationships can grow and flourish, even in the face of conflict and difference.

Listen to the episode to learn more about:

* The losing strategies we instinctively use in our relationships
* The growth opportunity provided through conflict in marriage
* How to handle differences with greater maturity and wisdom

This interview is also available on our YouTube channel HERE.

Dr. Finlayson-Fife's Strengthening Your Relationship teaches strategies for growing into deeper integrity, deeper honesty, and deeper courage in your life and relationship. The principles in the course will help you address conflict more constructively and show you how to create a marriage where two people can thrive both together and independently. You can learn more about this marriage-revolutionizing course HERE.

The temptation in this scenario is to try to convince your spouse to see things the “right” way (i.e., your way!). But, when we do this, we set ourselves up for a lifelong power struggle and a relationship unlikely to find common ground.  

On the other hand, earnestly seeking to understand your spouse’s point of view–how they see the world and why it makes sense to them–is an essential practice. Rather than demand validation of your own beliefs, seeking first to genuinely understand is a powerful skill.  It opens both partners up to deeper understanding of each other and even if there isn’t “agreement” there is at a minimum more ability to work more collaboratively with differing views. 

I recently joined Elisa Fucci of the Elisa Fucci Show to discuss how couples can navigate their differences with wisdom and maturity, and how doing so can lead to not only finding common ground in a mixed-faith marriage, but finding higher ground.

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

* Creating a collaborative marriage

* Losing strategies and how they keep us stuck in frustrating dynamics

* The gift of dual perspectives

* Staying connected during disagreements

* Parenting in a mixed-faith family

Several weeks ago, Dr. Finlayson-Fife invited Thomas McConkie to join her and Room for Two annual subscribers for an interactive discussion about embodiment, vulnerability, and the power of mindfulness. This week, we are publishing the recording of this rich and meaningful conversation for ALL to enjoy. 

Thomas McConkie is an author, developmental researcher, and mindfulness teacher. He is the founder of the Lower Lights School of Wisdom, a supportive and vibrant community focused on adult development and healing divisions through bridging religious/secular divides. Thomas has a passion for the world's Wisdom traditions, was raised as a Latter-day Saint, and has a deep Christian faith infused with nearly 25 years of Buddhist practice. 

Thomas's newly released book, At-ONE-Ment, offers a beautiful exploration of ancient and modern approaches to awakening the mind, purifying the heart, and healing the body. You can learn more about Thomas and his work by clicking HERE.

If you would like to take part in future live discussions like this one, subscribe to Room for Two today! 

Egodystonic. Enmeshment. Sense-of-self. Differentiation.

These words and the ideas they represent can be unfamiliar and even downright intimidating when you first start listening to Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s podcasts and courses--it can sometimes feel like learning an entirely new language! But, as with learning any new language, the more you immerse yourself by listening and learning, the more clear these transformative concepts will become.

In this NEW podcast episode, Sherrae Phelps interviews Dr. Finlayson-Fife about her unique approach to coaching and what sets this approach apart from others. Throughout the episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife breaks down many of the phrases and concepts that are central to differentiation theory and her work, and goes on to discuss why these concepts are so powerful and effective for those looking to grow in their capacity to love. 

Whether you are new to her content or have been here a while, this episode is a helpful listen for anyone who wants a more concrete understanding of differentiation theory and the uncomfortable process of human development and relational change.

In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Tom Telford, Liza Telford, and Preston Niederhauser, hosts of the BrainSTOKE podcast, to give parents helpful guidance on how they can be loving, wise mentors as their children stumble through the sometimes turbulent transition into adulthood.

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

*  Fostering your child’s capacity to self-author

*  Fitting in vs belonging 

*  Establishing guardrails for our kids and knowing when and how to adjust those guardrails

*  Overcoming resentment about our own lack of self-authoring

The conversation was simply too good to keep contained on the Room for Two podcast, so we are releasing it here today on Conversations with Dr. Jennifer for EVERYONE to enjoy. This beautiful exchange of ideas between Dr. Finlayson-Fife and Dr. Miller will change the way you think about love in the best possible way.

Dr. Adam Miller is a professor of philosophy at Collin College in McKinney, Texas. He earned a BA in Comparative Literature from Brigham Young University and an MA and PhD in Philosophy from Villanova University.

He is the author of over ten books, including “Letters to a Young Mormon”  and “Original Grace”, he serves as the current director of the Mormon Theology seminar. You can learn more about Adam and his work HERE.

If you would like to take part in future conversations like this one, consider subscribing to Room for Two!

This podcast episode discusses the Zack and Kelly series, found on Dr. Finlayson-Fife's Room for Two podcast. You can listen to a portion of the first episode of the series without a subscription HERE. 

In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Dr. Dave and Ashley of the On Call with Dr. Dave podcast to talk through the impact of high-demand careers on relationships and the important role that self-awareness, honest communication, and conscious choosing play in keeping resentment and entitlement at bay.

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

• Collaboration and partnership

• Important factors to discuss before pursuing a high-demand career while in a relationship

• Combating entitlement and resentment 

• Keeping play and eroticism alive in marriage 

**Click HERE to learn more about Room for Two!**

Today we are releasing the recording of Dr. Finlayson-Fife's 2022 Restore presentation, "Developing Sexual Wholeness." In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife discusses the integration of spirituality and sexuality from an LDS theological perspective. She also walks through the three stages of development (Egocentric, Social, and Self-Authoring) and how each developmental stage shapes how we think about ourselves, our sexuality, and God.

You can watch the video of this presentation HERE.

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

• Self-authoring and the importance of claiming your life and choices

• The problem with compliance/defiance framing

• Role-based marriage vs choice-based marriage

• Eroticism in marriage 

• Approaching difficult conversations with curiosity

A recording of this conversation is also available on our YouTube channel. 

Sometimes we teach important principles like modesty and chastity in ways that promote an entirely different idea–in ways that imply that our bodies and sexuality are burdens to be overcome and obstacles to our spirituality.

It can also be tempting to overcorrect for this body-shaming stance and see modesty as simply an effort to suppress sexuality and dignity (of women, in particular).

Both of these extremes are simple-minded and unhelpful. A truer understanding of modesty takes into account the value of moderation, self-respect, and how these are related to our choices.

In this NEW podcast episode, I join Aubrey and Tim Chaves from the Faith Matters podcast to talk about modesty and how we can relate to and cherish our bodies so as to experience deeply embodied joy through them.

Listen to the full episode to learn more about: 

• Problematic understandings of modesty

• Why modesty is such a culturally charged topic

• Sexual self-mastery

• Healthy ways to talk to youth about modesty and sexuality

• Stages of moral development

• The gift of sexual conservatism

If you’ve ever been frustrated with your spouse and turned to a friend to complain, you’ve triangulated.

Triangulation is our attempt to bring stability to perceived instability in a relationship. As any new cyclist can attest–three wheels are much more stable than two. And relationships aren’t all that different. Dyads (relationships of two) are inherently unstable, and when that instability makes us anxious (as it often does), we can feel the pull to turn to someone outside of the relationship to diffuse our anxiety.

Triangles aren’t always a bad thing–seeking wise input from a therapist or thoughtful friend can help you see yourself in your relationship more clearly.  You can use that insight to bring more stability to the dyad through your own growth. But, there are plenty of unhealthy types of triangles as well (affairs, finding validation from family or friends) and when we turn to those (usually in an effort to justify our own immature behavior) we prevent ourselves and our relationships from growing in important ways.

In this NEW podcast episode, I join Heather Frazier of the Pivot Parenting Podcast to talk about triangulation in families and the negative impact that triangulation has on our children and our marriages.

Listen to the full episode to learn:

* What triangulation is and why it is so tempting

* The three classic roles in triangled relationships—victim, perpetrator, and rescuer (and how we toggle between roles at different times)

* How to distinguish between healthy triangles and unhealthy ones

* How triangulation is related to codependency

* How to break the pattern of triangulation when it’s undermining your relationships

In this episode, Heather mentions how much she loves the Room for Two Podcast--you can learn more about Room for Two (and start your subscription) HERE. 

In this NEW podcast episode [“Differentiation and Divorce”], Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Hyo North of the Leading With Grace podcast to talk about how differentiation can help those working through the complexities of separation or divorce navigate forward with wisdom and maturity.

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

* Separation and divorce

* Collusive alliances and how they keep us stuck 

* Differentiation as it relates to divorce

* Forgiveness  

* Forging capacity in the face of crisis 

Stepping into the deep anxiety and uncertainty of defining a self that others may not validate is a terrifying prospect, but it’s what must be done for people and relationships to evolve and grow. 

In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Rhonda Farr to talk through two listener questions about desire dynamics and how to navigate the painful reality of having a spouse who is not interested in creating a better sexual relationship. 

During this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife expertly models how the higher desire partner can maturely handle themselves in difficult and productive conversations about sexuality.

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

-Desire Dynamics

-Duty Sex

-Differentiation

-Emotional and Sexual Maturity 

If you found this episode helpful, consider enrolling in Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s Enhancing Sexual Intimacy Course. This course was designed to help couples better understand and navigate the challenges in their intimate relationship. 

• Healthy ways to address the discrepancy between societal norms and divergent realities 

• Finding peace in painful circumstances 

• How love is the pathway to truth

• How to communicate effectively with those who believe differently 

• Stages of spiritual development 

• Navigating mixed-orientation marriages 

• Grief and loss as inherent to life 

• The silver lining that comes from not fitting the mold of a group 

Most of us have no problem sharing a curated version of ourselves with our spouse—carefully selected parts that we know will be accepted, valued, and appreciated. But real intimacy requires much more than that. Real intimacy means we share the not-so-loveable parts of ourselves– all the good along with the flaws and imperfections. 

Marriage is a remarkable, growth-promoting commitment—because who we are, including our limited ability to love another, is reflected back to us through our spouse. And this isn’t usually comfortable. But, when we stay open to the truths that our marriage exposes, we can expand our capacity to love as well as our ability to be open and intimate with another.  

In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Dr. Dave and Dr. Liz of the Stronger Marriage Connection podcast to discuss how couples can work through conflict and develop a greater capacity for both sexual and emotional intimacy. 

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

-Reframing the way you think about marital conflict

-Working through sexual desire differences 

-The important distinction between seeking love and being loving

-Important findings from Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s dissertation research

-Perfectionism 

-The connection between truth and joy

-Important keys to creating a stronger marital connection

When we take ourselves too seriously, we can snuff out the playful eros energy that keeps relationships vibrant and alive. 

After all, the happiest marriages thrive, rather than just survive. They are joyful because each person feels free to fully be themselves—without the need to pretend or contort themselves to earn approval. 

Making room for two people to be true to themselves and the relationship is where the real magic happens. 

I recently met with Dr. Jerry and Tammie Duggar of the Simple 7 Lifestyle Podcast to discuss how couples can find more happiness and a deeper sense of freedom in their relationships, and how the quality of our relationships impacts both our mental and physical health.

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

Honesty 

Conflict

Self-Trust

Anxiety Tolerance 

Eros Energy and its relationship to relational joy

** Click HERE to learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife's Enhancing Sexual Intimacy course!**

There is a time for thinking this way; it’s how we all start out—dependent on others to tell us how to live. But, if we want to mature and grow into greater personal responsibility and wisdom, we must be willing to author our own lives. 

It’s what maturity requires.

It means having the courage to take our own ideas and the ideas of others and really evaluate them. To determine for ourselves if ideas are good and truthful, and then to align our choices with what we ourselves genuinely believe is best. 

Forging a deeper internal reference is critical if we want to be at peace with ourselves and if we want to be capable of intimacy, of letting someone truly know who we are.

I recently joined Oliver and Lindsey of the Singled In Podcast for a conversation about the exceptional power of choice and its relationship to self-authoring, especially as it relates to being at peace with our sexuality.

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

-Shifting from an external to an internal moral compass

- Psychological maturation

-Self-authoring and self-determination  

-The power of CHOICE   

-How relationships pressure growth  

-Sexual integration for singles 

I am so grateful for my kind-hearted and generous mother.

When I was young, it seemed to me that my mom had less influence than my dad (he was a professor, a church leader, and had a more dominant voice in our family). But, over time, I have come to see and appreciate just how influential my mom has been—not only in my life but in the lives of countless others. 

My mom has the tremendous gift of being able to see the good in others. She genuinely cares about people and easily celebrates them for who they are, however divergent their backgrounds and beliefs may be. Throughout my childhood, my mom would welcome those who were in need of friendship or support into her life. It wasn’t uncommon for us to have visitors staying at our house or sitting around our dinner table. Caring for others comes easily to my mom—the genuine friendship and acceptance that she offers has blessed the lives of so many.

Because of my mom’s ability to see the good in others, it has always been clear to me and to each of my seven siblings that we are cherished by her. She relates to us as gifts in her life and believes that we are inherently worthy (even when we have been sure she was mistaken). She never tried to turn us into anything different than who we were—she didn’t pressure us to be people who would make her proud. She was already proud of us, just for being hers. Having a parent value me so unequivocally fostered a belief in myself early on. Through the way that she has lived, she has taught me to care for others and to trust in a God who loves and accepts me, even when others may not.

Although an unassuming person, my mom has always been determined to create a meaningful life. Consistent with her focus on the Good, she’s an optimist, one who looks towards possibilities. For example, in her seventies, she started a raw vegan snack food business; at age 89, she signed up for ballroom dance classes–even though doing so terrified her–and she has danced nearly every day since. Lately, she has been focused on improving her German and studies it regularly. She is always trying to expand her life. And even in the face of a devastating diagnosis, Mom has remained hopeful and resolved to live every remaining moment wholeheartedly and without despair.

The truth is, my behind-the-scenes mother has had a tremendous positive impact on the world. She has spread her influence by living wisely and through her honest care for others. This disposition has been supported by her faith which has asked her to love others and to live hopefully.  

At ninety years old, she is a woman full of life and genuine beauty–she exemplifies feminine radiance and intuitive wisdom. Her life has demonstrated that the power of love, humility, and grace can make the world a better place. I am so grateful for her–grateful for her influence on me and on others. Grateful that she is who she is, and that she has shown up in her life the way that she has. She has given me so much. 

Thank you, Mom. I love you so very much.

Understanding and addressing your role in these difficult interactions will help you create an intimate relationship that can be a place of solace for both parties—where each partner feels desired, valued, and cared for. 

In this new podcast episode, I join Melissa of the Family Brand podcast to discuss our ability to find fulfillment in sexual relationships and how couples can overcome common roadblocks that interfere with desire, passion, and connection. 



Listen to the full episode to learn more about: 

    •    Meanings that interfere with desire and sexual connection

    •    Becoming more capable of desire and connection in marriage

    •    Navigating intimacy during every phase of marriage—from newlywed to empty nest

    •    Balancing our need for autonomy with our need for connection (making room for two in marriage)

    •    Self-authoring and its relationship to desire 

    •    Increasing eroticism and connection with our partners

Many of us have been taught the misguided idea that to be virtuous we must be desireless.

Not all desires are created equal, and there is an important distinction to be made between our lower and higher desires. Lower desires are driven by our ego—they are self-serving, driven by our need to feel good, and are antithetical to spiritual development. Higher desires, on the other hand, encourage our growth and expansion, these are the desires that promote our development and increase our ability to love those around us.

The pursuit of our higher desires is not only worthwhile, it’s imperative to our psychological, emotional, and spiritual development.

In this episode, I joined Ryan and Jordan, hosts of The Stoic Dad podcast, to discuss the difference between higher and lower desires, the important distinction between wants and desires, productive and unproductive suffering, as well as what defines mature masculinity and the dynamics of attraction.

The brief years of young adulthood are a vitally important period of our development. 

These are the years when we learn how to self-define. A time when we take the ideas and beliefs that were offered to us by parents, peers, and society and really sort out what we think about those ideas, and how we want to relate to them as we go forward. 

As most adults will remember, this can be a turbulent process, for both young adults and their parents.  

I recently had the opportunity to sit down with Isaac Burton, a bright young college student, to discuss several topics on the minds of many young adults. During the conversation, we discuss dating, career choices, the importance of self-definition, and more.

In this episode, I discuss with Monica the importance of expanding ourselves and how constricting this process and taking refuge in stasis and what is familiar, limits not only our peace with ourselves but also our ability to whole-heartedly love our partner. 

Listen to the full episode to learn more about how the courage to grow will impact every aspect of your life, including your intimate relationship. 

To learn more about this topic, consider enrolling in my Art of Desire course for women!

In this episode, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins Richard Ostler to discuss the experiences in her early life that shaped her personal, professional, and spiritual journey—including her shift from following cultural expectations to following her own heart and desires. 

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

-Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s personal, professional, and spiritual journey

-Boundaries 

-Spiritual Maturity 

-Self-Definition 

-Obedience vs Integrity 

The trepidation that many of us feel makes a lot of sense, given that most of us got very little guidance about sexuality during our formative years. And the guidance we did get, often came from a place of fear and anxiety–ultimately doing more harm than it did good. 

While I am sure that these messages were well intended, they resulted in a lot of fear and confusion, both of which interfere with our ability to accept our bodies and sexuality for what they really are –incredible gifts from our Heavenly Parents. 

If we want an intimate connection with a spouse, we have to be at peace with our sexuality. Because If you don’t know your sexual self, you won’t be able to share an intimate connection with another–we can’t share what we don’t have. 

The good news is that this is an area in which we can and should grow. It’s not too late.  And I assure you that every effort that you make to come to peace with your God-given sexuality will pay incredible dividends in your life and in your marriage. 

Recently, I joined Dr. Paul Jenkins of Live on Purpose Radio to discuss the role that peace with our OWN sexuality plays in our ability to create a soulful and sustaining connection with our spouse. In the episode, we discuss several roadblocks that couples face as they try to create sexual and emotional intimacy–these roadblocks are more common than you might think and the good news is that they can be overcome. 

You can listen to the full episode to learn more about: 

* What REAL intimacy is and how you can create more of it! 

* The keys to creating real sexual and emotional intimacy in marriage 

* The gift of coming to peace with your own sexuality

While freedom and discipline seem like competing ideas, the reality is that they actually work alongside one another. When sexuality goes awry, it can usually be attributed to either excessive freedom or excessive rigidity. Both extremes are anti-spiritual positions that keep sex from becoming the rejuvenating, soul-sustaining experience it has the potential to be. 

In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins Tammy Hill of the Live Your Why Podcast to discuss the divine gift of sexuality and the important role that our sexuality plays in our spiritual development.

Listen to the full episode to learn more about: 

*The divine gift of sexuality

*How to create real connection through sexuality 

*Theological principles of sexuality and joy 

*The important balance of freedom and constraint 

*The important connection between sexuality and spirituality 

Listen to the full episodes to learn more about how couples can work together to create more heavenly marriages.

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But, In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Dan Purcell of the Get Your Marriage On podcast  (@getyourmarriageon) for a deep dive into the topic of masturbation. During the episode,  Dr. Jennifer explores the reasons why there is so much anxiety surrounding masturbation and offers insight on what we can do to make decisions around our sexuality that are wise and make us stronger.

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

* Helpful ways to think about the topic of masturbation.

* Why labeling masturbation as “right” or “wrong” isn’t as clear as you think

* How you can overcome sexual shame

* Understanding and achieving sexual Integrity 

* Increasing intimacy in marriage 

In this popular podcast, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Taralynn of the Find the Magic Podcast to discuss what parents can do to help their children develop a healthy relationship with sexuality.

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

• Taking the shame, fear, and anxiety out of talking to kids about sex

• Normalizing sexuality

• Teaching our children to be deliberate and thoughtful in their choices about sexuality

• Handling toddler and pre-adolescent curiosity about embodiment and sexuality

• Modesty

When dealing with unwanted porn use or unwelcome sexual feelings, it’s easy to feel victimized by our environment and choices. 

But it’s important to know that the way that we frame these behaviors MATTERS.

Certain framing leaves us feeling powerless and that we have little control over our behavior. But when we shift to a more agentic frame and take deeper responsibility for our lives and choices, we open ourselves up to making decisions that are more in line with our higher selves.

In this NEW PODCAST episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Taylor Chambers MS, LMFT to discuss unwanted porn use and how our framing of the behavior can make all the difference. They also discuss how honesty with ourselves and our partner can open us up to more sexual fulfillment and connection.

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

• Addiction framing vs Agentic framing

• Sexuality as a mechanism for personal development

• Coming to peace with your sexuality

• Honesty and its role in our relationships

• Positive ways to respond to unwanted sexual thoughts/feelings

• Trust vs Trustworthiness 

It takes emotional maturity to show up honestly in your life and expose what you really think, feel, and desire–especially when those thoughts and feelings diverge from the norms of your larger social group. The fear of not belonging can keep us from acknowledging who we really are.

In this NEW PODCAST episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Sarah Carter of the Heart and Soul podcast to discuss the complexity of making room for your own thoughts and desires when you also belong to a family or larger group, and how unyielding expectations can interfere with self-acceptance, body acceptance, and honest relationships with others. 

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

• The importance of acknowledging our honest thoughts and desires

• Perfectionism

• Body Image 

• Developing compassion towards our limitations and the limitations of others

• Resentment 

Making room in a relationship for two complete people, each with their own values, opinions, and priorities, is a complicated, painful, and remarkably worthwhile process–a process that will foster spiritual, emotional, and psychological development if we let it.

In this NEW PODCAST episode, Dr.Finlayson-Fife joins the Barbie Does Dating podcast discuss the complexities and joy that come from our most important and meaningful relationships. 

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

*Differentiation in relationships

*Finding connection despite differences

*Negative patterns that interfere with growth & intimacy

*How fear of rejection and fear of commitment relate to perfectionism, 

low desire, and disinterest in dating 

*The importance of using invalidating information to confront ourselves and grow

*The benefits of being in a loving and committed relationship

When sexuality is mature, based in love and acceptance, it has the power to sustain us, rejuvenate our souls, and expand our capacity for joy.

In this NEW PODCAST episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Tammy Hill of the Live Your Why podcast to talk about how we can develop sexual maturity and use our sexuality to create more partnership and connection in our marriages. 

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

*Female orgasm

*Sexual response cycles for men and women (they’re different!)

*Masturbation and sexual awareness

*Fantasy

*Surrender and pleasure

If you enjoyed this episode and want to learn more, consider enrolling in Dr. Finlayson-Fife's Art of Desire course for women!

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

*Love and Truth, two foundational elements of all good marriages

*Discomfort and its role in personal and relational growth

*Harmful meaning frames

*Creating and maintaining friendship in marriage 

*Resentment and what it can teach us about ourselves

*Red flags in relationships

 It’s been a rough year for Nate and Nora. 

Their marriage has been a relatively peaceful and comfortable one, but now things are different. Navigating Nate’s faith transition has been difficult for both of them. Nate is seemingly sprinting down this new path and Nora, while she makes efforts to understand, needs more time and patience than Nate is willing to provide. While recent changes have brought some newfound beauty and depth to their relationship, she often finds herself craving the stability and certainty of the past.

In this episode of Room for Two, Dr. Finlayson-Fife helps Nate and Nora see how they have each handled their fear and anxiety in destructive ways – Nora becoming rigid and Nate turning to condescension. These strategies are compelling because they are an easy escape from the intensity and discomfort of marital growth and expansion. Dr. Finlayson-Fife explains that the path to more stability and connection in their relationship is differentiation – learning to tolerate the aloneness and invalidation that comes when you love someone who sees and experiences the world differently than you do.

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

*Fear vs Anxiety 

*How to increase our tolerance for anxiety and uncertainty 

*Supporting family members with anxiety 

*Anxiety medication 

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

* Conflict vs Contempt

* Our need for both connection and autonomy

* Effective communication during conflict

* Losing strategies

Listen to the full episode to learn more about 

* What inspired Dr. Jennifer’s dissertation topic 

* Growth from stepping into a paradigm you don’t agree 

* Satan’s playground–it’s not sex…

* Updates about Dr. Jennifer’s upcoming book

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

* Overfunctioning vs underfunctioning

* Self-confronting about our behaviors

* Negative impacts of overfunctioning and underfunctioning

* Specialization within a marriage

* Overfunctioning as a parent

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

* Spontaneous Desire vs Responsive Desire

* Escaping exposure and responsibility through resentment

* Duty sex

* False narratives that limit growth

* Discomfort for growth

* Modesty as a form of self-respect  

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

* Equal responsibilities for men and women around modesty

* The dangers of both repression and indulgence 

* Moderation and self-regulation

* Empowering modesty vs compliance modesty

* Adults and modesty

* Modesty as a form of self-respect  

In this NEW PODCAST episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Camille Scow of the Choosing Love podcast to talk about the complexities of pornography usage and how you can show love and support to your spouse and yourself in the wake of a pornography disclosure. 

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

* The important role of self-compassion as we work through fears and anxieties associated with porn usage

* Harmful meanings around pornography that hinder our growth and understanding 

* Anger as a positive resource

* The true measure of progress for a porn user

* Trust vs Trustworthiness 

In this NEW PODCAST episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Heather Frazier of the Pivot Parenting podcast to talk about the many emotions that can come as parents transition into the empty nest phase of life, and how we can best support our kids as they become more independent and step out into the world. 

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

* Dealing with the loss of purpose and identity as we transition to the empty nesting phase

* Encouraging confidence and independence in adult children

* Supporting married children to leave and cleave to their partner

* Making room for a new daughter or son-in-law in the family culture

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

* Sexuality as a force for good

* The importance of becoming the architect of your own life

* Creating strength and peace through your choices

* Embracing your capacity for pleasure

* How negative meaning frames & anxiety obscure spiritual clarity and our ability to be at peace with ourselves and others

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

* Approaching difficult topics with your spouse (finances, in-laws,, parenting, etc.)

* The difference between a peacemaker and a people-pleaser

* Parenting adolescent children regardless of their beliefs

* Responding to a child who identifies as LGBTQ

* Estrangement from a loved one because of differing political or religious beliefs 

We have a responsibility to examine the ideas that are presented to us and discern truth from error and sort out doctrine from tradition–no matter whether the ideas in question come from our families, church leaders, or others. Earnestly seeking out truth is what fosters our freedom and wisdom and will allow us to fully access the richness of our theology. 

In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins the Cultural Hall Podcast to discuss some of the false traditions that have been passed down through generations and are now being misunderstood as doctrine–topics like patriarchal order within the church and family, Mother in Heaven, equality, priesthood authority, polygamy, and sexuality. It’s important to pray, ponder, and discern your own position. 

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

* Personal revelation and moral responsibility

* Traditions vs Truth 

* Limited understandings of sexuality, intimacy, priesthood, and Mother-in-Heaven 

* How to handle complicated topics and different perspectives with maturity

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

* Self-awareness is key to intimacy

* Differentiation 

* Recognizing our own capacity to be unkind

* Dealing with powerlessness in your life

* Therapy vs coaching

* Emotional immaturity 

* Narcissism 

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

* The self-deceptions of an over-achiever (you might be surprised)

* Why you may feel the“need to be needed” 

* Recognizing your false sense of control

* Dealing with powerlessness in your life

* How competition can creep into marriage. 

* Wanting vs Desiring

In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife talks about the upcoming Art of Loving retreat for men. You can learn more about the retreat and get your ticket HERE.

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

* The importance of self-confrontation 

* The complexities of humanity 

* Facing our darker selves 

* Honesty

* Spiritual development

* Self-deception

* Marriage as a mechanism for growth 

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Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

* Misunderstandings that interfere with equality in the church

* The problem with prioritizing validation over integrity

* How to move past feelings of resentment and anger

* Mother-in-Heaven

* Making room for growth in your life, marriage, and culture

* Ways to encourage equality in your marriage and at church

If you are interested in learning more, consider enrolling in Dr. Finlayson-Fife's Art of Desire course for women. 

This discovery was just the tip of the iceberg and led to Andy’s disclosure of other sexually indulgent behavior that has taken place over the course of their 20-year marriage. 

These disclosures shattered April’s perception of their relationship. She had believed their relationship was solid and at times still cannot wrap her mind around the fact that Andy was capable of this type of betrayal. 

In this episode of Room for Two, Dr. Finlayson-Fife works with Andy and April to see how they each contributed to the marital dysfunction and, in particular, how Andy's dysfunction was expressed in deception and betrayal. She works with the couple to help them see what they can do to move forward, as well as bring more honesty and equality to their relationship.

Listen in for a compelling conversation about:

* One-up/one-down relationships

* Honesty

* Trustworthiness vs Trust 

* Using conflict and disillusionment for growth

This is the first episode in the Andy and April series. Be sure to subscribe to Room for Two to listen to the full episode and future episodes with April and Andy.

Listen to the full episode to learn more about: 

*The gifts and challenges of belonging to a high-demand religion

*Living with integrity when questioning your cultural or faith traditions 

*Mixed-faith marriages

*Navigating religious questions

*Desire and sexuality  

*Making room for growth in your life, marriage, and culture

Resources:

In this episode, Jennifer and Matana discuss both The Art of Desire online course and Jennifer's Room for Two podcast.

Listen to the full episode to learn more about: 

* Dismantling the myth that sexuality and spirituality are incompatible

* The problems that anxiety and fear of sexuality can create for ourselves and our children

* How to be a good mentor to your kids from birth to adulthood

* Age-appropriate conversations to have with your children about sexuality

* The importance of "seeking first to understand"

If you are interested in learning more and can't attend the webinar series, consider enrolling in Dr. Finlayson-Fife's self-paced How to Talk to Your Kids About Sex online course! You can enroll today by clicking HERE.

Listen to learn more about: 

* Why in-person events are such a powerful way to learn the principles taught by Dr. Finlayson-Fife

* What you can expect if you attend an in-person retreat alone or with your spouse

* If retreats are appropriate for post-Mormons and couples in mixed-faith marriages 

* A breakdown of the material covered during each of Dr. Finlayson-Fife's upcoming retreats 

* The stages of sexual development (why sex gets better with age!)

In this conversation with Michelle Larson of Uplift for Kids, Dr. Finlayson-Fife discusses what parents can do to facilitate the healthy sexual development of their children throughout every stage of development.

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

• Facilitating children's sexual integrity
• Important messaging to offer children about sexuality
• Giving children a sense of ownership over their bodies
• Normalizing sexual development, including curiosity and exploration
• The connection between anxiety and compulsivity
• Tips for parents who aren't comfortable yet with their own sexuality

Listen to the episode to learn more about: 

* Sexual accelerators and brakes

* Women's sexual capacity 

* How to shift meaning frames that inhibit desire

If you would like to learn more about this topic, enroll in Dr. Finlayson-Fife's Art of Desire course for women! This powerful course is perfect for any woman who wants to gain a better understanding of desire and its important relationship to personal development. 

Listen to the full episode to learn more about: 

* Coping with the disillusionment that comes during middle age 

* Coping with loss and the finiteness of life 

* Stoicism 

* Metabolizing regret

* Finding purpose in the mundane and routine. 

* Finding your spark and a sense of meaning

Show Notes:

Click HERE to learn more about our upcoming retreats! 

Listen to the full episode to learn more about: 

* Pornography

* The distinction between a coping mechanisms and self-regulation 

* Mature masculinity

* One-up/one-down dynamics

* Creating more intimate relationships

If you found this podcast episode helpful, you would LOVE taking Dr. Finlayson-Fife's The Art of Loving course for men! In this course, Dr. Finlayson-Fife will be unpacking the damaging messages our culture has offered to men about masculinity and sexuality and then discussing how men can move forward and create a healthier relationship with themselves, a more balanced relationship with their sexuality, and a more fulfilling sexual connection with their spouse. You can learn more about this course HERE.

- How to define your role as a parent

- Shifting the value from external sources to one’s internal courage

- More tips on parenting your perfectionistic child

- And more...

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- Questions to ask yourself to help you sort out your own relationship to your sexuality

- How to help your child understand that they are a powerful chooser in their life, especially around their sexuality

- How to create guidelines and boundaries with your kids as they learn to integrate their sexuality 

- Teaching your children that being careful around their sexual choices matters

Click here get your ticket to the live How to Talk to Your Kids About Sex Course! 

- How to identify if you have a perfectionistic child 

- Why perfectionistic children can be over or underperforming 

- Separating your own sense of worth from your child’s achievements 

- How to illustrate the importance of failure in the process

Click here get your ticket to the live How to Talk to Your Kids About Sex Course! 

 Listen to this podcast to hear Dr. Finlayson talk directly to teens about: 

- Troubles that teens face in friendships and relationships

- Anxiety

- Disagreements with parents 

- and more!  

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- How to address conflicts in the marital and sexual relationship that interfere with happiness 

- Claiming your sexuality as your own 

- A helpful distinction between forgiveness and trusting

- Normalizing struggles in marriage and using those struggles for our growth

- The purpose of boundaries

 - Types of boundaries 

- How to be clear headed when setting your boundaries 

- The immense importance of honesty

• Perfectionism
• Sexual Anxiety
• Scrupulosity
• Regressed-Self
• Guilt and Shame
• Shifting from an External to an Internal Reference

- How to integrate freedom in the sexual relationship in a committed relationship 

- Meaning frames that can help your sexual relationship thrive through changes in life such as the postpartum stage and aging

- Navigating desire differences in your relationship

Listen to this episode to hear more about....

- Women’s relationship to their sexuality in the context of a patriarchal society

- LDS women’s ability to be choosers in the sexual realm

- Cultural invalidation of women’s eroticism

- Why self-hood is a stronger factor in desire than biological drive

- How undermining women’s strength undermines strength in marriages, families and society

- Descriptive vs. prescriptive gender roles

- Yin and Yang energy

- What is lost when we don’t acknowledge fundamental differences between men and women

- Immature and mature versions of both masculine and feminine 

- The goodness that comes from women embracing their strength

- The importance of seeing other people as full, complete people in their own right

-  Becoming a strong agent in the world by gathering information and owning our choices 

- The way vulnerability can lead us to strength and intimacy

- The role self-regulation plays in compulsive behaviors 

- A more strength-based model of conversations around unwanted pornography use 

- How to truly sustain church leaders

- Relational and moral development

- Acting out of the best in you in regards to religion

- Using your faith to live well and love others 

Dr. Finlayson-Fife joined Tina Gosney of the Parenting Through the Detour podcast to answer difficult questions that are on parents minds and souls.  Listen to learn more about: 

- The normal, but unhelpful tendency to use your child to reinforce your sense of self 

- The importance of truly knowing and loving your child

- The healthy does of compassion that is needed for self and others in the parenting process

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The process of waking up to the way we are participating in unhealthy systems requires a lot of self-confrontation, faith, and courage. It means breaking free of the systems we know and taking the more courageous path of offering our partners and children something better than what we received. 

In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Paul Duane of The Soul Anarchist podcast for an engaging and powerful discussion of everything from the evolution of Jennifer's understanding of and relationship to God to the power of lipstick and high-waisted jeans.

Listen to the full episode to learn more about: 

* The stages of moral, spiritual, and sexual development

* Gender role ideology and how it impacts our perception of God 

* Obedience and integrity 

* Jennifer's spiritual journey

Parenting Through the Detour Podcast

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

* What strong masculinity looks like
* Honesty and the fundamental role it plays in desirability
* Immature masculinity ("bullies" and "nice guys")
* Men's mental health and the importance of finding a sense of purpose
* Inherited Cultural Meanings of Masculinity and Sexuality

Don't forget to subscribe to the Room for Two podcast today to lock in the introductory pricing before November 1st.  Annual subscribers get access to a live Q & A Dr. Finlayson-Fife is holding on November 5th!

Listen to the full episode to hear an in-depth exploration of:

• The church's theology on the body
• The historical and theological reasoning on sexuality being reserved for marriage
• Thoughts on same-sex marriage
• If there is any place for pornography and masturbation in our lives
• The importance of making decisions out of integrity rather than out of compliance

- Normal development in the highly vulnerable and impressionable time of teenage years
- How parents can help their children be thoughtful and honest as they sort out their sexual identity
- How to navigate your relationship with the church when you have an LGBTQ child
- How to demonstrate to your child that you can handle difficult conversations and that you are a good resource for them
- How love expands our understanding of truth

To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights.

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 - How hierarchies create suffering in humanity 

- Patriarchy in the church, what it looks like, and why it undermines both men and women

- A view of God that keeps us from corrupting our internal compass 

- How to come to know God and goodness for ourselves 

To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights.

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- The one up & one down position in various areas of marriage

- How to truly choose your spouse

- How to create equality in marriage 

- How to grow beyond self-suppression and validation seeking

To learn more about Amanda Louder and her work visit  her website. 

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- Integrity based choices regarding your sexuality following divorce

- A discussion about sexuality following divorce  

- How to discuss sexuality when dating as a mid single

- Honestly addressing your role in your relationship challenges 

Hear more from LILY Pod here. 

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- The true meaning of modesty

- Modesty as a function of self-respect

- Unhelpful messages we unwittingly give to men, women, boys and girls about modesty

- Helpful messages to replace those harmful narratives

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- Losing the idea of the “correct path” and a more helpful idea to replace it

-  How stepping into a paradigm you don’t totally agree with can lead to growth

- Tools for getting through the lows in professional life

- Common pitfalls in marriage that start when you are newlywed

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- How children are incredibly adept mind mappers and why that matters

- Internalized ideas of beauty and where they come from

- The natural tendency to compare ourselves and others

- How we are in relationship with our body and sexuality

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- Developing into a person who is less dependent on validation

- Choosing to stay in the church 

- The moral impact of each human being 

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- Integrating our God given sexuality

- Spiritual development 

- Raw honesty with yourself, God and your spouse

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- Men’s sexuality

- How your choices can expose the immature systems operating within yourself and your marriage 

- Engaging in the human process of creating a moderate relationship the the pleasures in our life

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- How integrity allows us to hold the tension between belonging and boundaries

- Differentiation theory  

- Wise choices and boundaries around participation in the church 

- How to create genuine connection within our ward families by bringing a deeper sense of honesty  

- How self-development allows for deeper compassion and wisdom

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- Maintaining a sense of self in motherhood

- Challenging the message that to be a good mother you must needless and wantless

- Questions to ask yourself to strengthen your partnership and sexual relationship 

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- The  difficulty of navigating differences, especially religious differences, in marriage.  

- Self-indulgence vs self-definition. 

- The paradox and tension of marriage.

- How to determine with integrity if a difference is too big for the marriage. 

- How we choose to navigate difference may matter more than the difference itself.

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- A distinction between sex and intimacy

- How to develop a capacity for intimacy 

- A positive strategy to use talking to your children about their sexuality 

- Advice for newlyweds as they begin their sexual relationship 

- Hope and encouragement for meaningful love and intimacy in your life

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- Integrating your sexuality regardless of what stage of life you are in

- The process of self and sexual development 

- Intimacy and communication

- Questions and discussions to help newlyweds navigate their new sexual relationship

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- Reclaiming your individual sexuality after betrayal

- The development opportunities afforded by crisis in your relationship

- How anchoring in one’s sense of self enhances your relationship to your spouse

-  The courage required to love

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-  Productive vs. unproductive discomfort.  

- How to find rejuvenation in your marital and sexual relationship when in the midst of parenting children with special needs. 

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This interview is as fun as it is powerful and is a must-listen for anyone who wants to gain a better understanding of the divine feminine and female sexuality!

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• Sexual energy and what a powerful creative force it can be for all of us

• The role of sexual energy in creative efforts

• The Divine Feminine

• Eve's important role in creation

• Modesty

• Embracing your sexuality while single

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- Experiences in Jennifer’s life that led her to her career

- Your ability to change your circumstances. 

- Two types of “sparks” that can lead to growth

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- How a female world champion athlete’s childhood experience eventually impacted her sexual relationship with her husband. 

- Women’s sexual health

- Belonging to yourself and to others and the interplay with eros energy

- The meanings that eroticism and desire thrive in and the ones the meanings that they don’t. 

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 - A look at the bigger issue an individual has when they are compulsively viewing pornography.

- Validating your own sexuality. 

- How to stop taking responsibility for your spouse viewing pornography.  

- Questions to ask to know your spouse  better and understand his choices so you can make clear choices in the face of it.

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- What eroticism is, how to engage it, and how it relates to your partnership.    

- How literature with erotic content can move you out of the mundane of everyday life and into a place of play with your spouse.  

- How erotic literature can be used to enrich your life and partnership.

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- Where is the line in regards to chastity?

- How to help your children make self-directed choices around their sexuality.

- A discussion about normal sexual developmental behavior

- Core questions to ask yourself to get clear on your relationship to your sexuality

- How to transition into a sexual relationship without guilt or shame when you get married

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- What true intimacy looks like and the courage it requires.  

- The importance of managing our own sense of self. 

- Why honesty is key in intimate relationships. 

- Managing differences in a marriage.  

- Asking questions to truly understand your spouse and build intimacy in your marriage.  

- How to rekindle intimacy and passion in your marriage.

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- The effects of the history of polygamy on modern mormon marriages.   

- Some beliefs or meaning frames that can hinder intimacy in mormon marriages.  

- How the history of polygamy and patriarchy affect both women and men.  

- How a cultural script can inhibit personal and spiritual development. 

- How marriage can be the best opportunity for intimacy, joy and development in this life. 

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Listen to this episode to hear more about...

- How expectations affect your relationship . 

- How to reframe your thoughts about Valentine’s Day (and other holidays where there are expectations ). 

- How to express what really matters to you and also accept how your spouse cares for you. 

- How to navigate Valentines Day if you are going through a hard time.   

- How to spice up your sex life.

- Potential roadblocks keeping you from improving your sexual relationship.

Transactional Faith and how we grow into a higher understandings of Faith.

Listen to this episode to hear more about...

-The different stages of spiritual development

-How to develop a stronger sense of integrity

-Trials, blessings and how to understand the relationship between the two.  

AND we are having a Valentine's Day Sale on all of our online courses!   Take advantage and save 20% on each course (AND save an additional 10-15% if you purchase more than one)!  

Invest in your relationship this Valentines Day and purchase courses that teach you how to address the stumbling blocks in your intimate relationship! 

Visit our course page to take advantage of this rare opportunity to participate in life-changing courses!

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To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights.

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You can also listen to this episode on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, and Stitcher.

The advice offered through Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s Podcast Archive is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information.  It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care.  Although Dr. Finlayson-Fife is a trained psychotherapist, she is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these sessions, but rather using her training to inform these sessions.  Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment.  The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients; and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever.  The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease.  The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

Listen to hear more about...

- How Carolyn went from only being able to run down the block to qualifying for the Boston Marathon.

- What parenting has taught Jennifer about herself and her own problematic perfectionism.

- How to overcome fears of failure or discomfort.

- The normalcy of perfectionism, the false ideas within it, and how we can transcend it.

This is a unique self-development podcast that you don't want to miss!

Read the transcript by clicking HERE.

To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights.

www.Finlayson-Fife.com

You can also listen to this episode on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, and Stitcher.

The advice offered through Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s Podcast Archive is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information.  It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care.  Although Dr. Finlayson-Fife is a trained psychotherapist, she is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these sessions, but rather using her training to inform these sessions.  Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment.  The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients; and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever.  The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease.  The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

Listen to a full version of this episode, including Monica's notes and thoughts about the interview at www.aboutprogress.com or by visiting Monica's Instagram page at @aboutprogress.

Today we are reposting a popular podcast in which Dr. Finlayson-Fife talks with Scabs of Bloom For Women about...

-Dishonesty in marriage.

-Healing from marital betrayal.

-How to move forward after a breach of trust.

-What infidelity in marriage can show you about your spouse and yourself.

-How you can become stronger in the face of betrayal.

-How to rebuild trust.

This episode was originally published in two parts but is being released today as one combined episode full of all the information you need to overcome betrayal trauma.

To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights.

www.Finlayson-Fife.com

You can also listen to this episode on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, and Stitcher.

The advice offered through Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s Podcast Archive is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information.  It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care.  Although Dr. Finlayson-Fife is a trained psychotherapist, she is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these sessions, but rather using her training to inform these sessions.  Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment.  The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients; and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever.  The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease.  The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

-Differentiation theory and Dr. David Schnarch's impact in the field of therapy.

-Differentiation and how it's related to strong relationships and a solid sense of self.

-How to better manage anxiety within your relationship and family.

-Common relational and sexual challenges facing those who have grown up in a religiously conservative culture.

To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights.

www.Finlayson-Fife.com

You can also listen to this episode on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, and Stitcher.

The advice offered through Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s Podcast Archive is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information.  It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care.  Although Dr. Finlayson-Fife is a trained psychotherapist, she is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these sessions, but rather using her training to inform these sessions.  Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment.  The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients; and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever.  The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease.  The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

-How she came to find Dr. Schnarch's work

-Personal growth that has come from her experience as a therapist and coach.

-The value of seeking for truth even when it's disorienting.

-How her practice has been influenced by Dr. David Schnarch's life and work.

-The importance of differentiation in human development and creating peace within oneself and healthy relationships

To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights.

www.Finlayson-Fife.com

You can also listen to this episode on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, and Stitcher.

The advice offered through Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s Podcast Archive is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information.  It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care.  Although Dr. Finlayson-Fife is a trained psychotherapist, she is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these sessions, but rather using her training to inform these sessions.  Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment.  The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients; and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever.  The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease.  The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

For LDS families with an LGBTQ child, it can be even more challenging.

In this podcast episode, Allison from www.liftandlove.org and Jenie with Jenie Hunter Coaching talk with Dr. Finlayson-Fife about how to raise LGBTQ children and youth with a healthy sense of their sexuality and of their identity as a child of God.

To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights.

www.Finlayson-Fife.com

You can also listen to this episode on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, and Stitcher.

The advice offered through Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s Podcast Archive is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information.  It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care.  Although Dr. Finlayson-Fife is a trained psychotherapist, she is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these sessions, but rather using her training to inform these sessions.  Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment.  The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients; and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever.  The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease.  The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

They discuss...

-The 3 stages of sexual development, and how to bring your marriage to the next level.

-The importance of fostering erotic energy in your relationship.

-How to go from having sex to deep connection through love-making.

To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights.

www.Finlayson-Fife.com

You can also listen to this episode on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, and Stitcher.

The advice offered through Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s Podcast Archive is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information.  It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care.  Although Dr. Finlayson-Fife is a trained psychotherapist, she is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these sessions, but rather using her training to inform these sessions.  Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment.  The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients; and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever.  The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease.  The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

-Why it can be difficult to ask for support from a spouse when you have a meaningful ambition.

-The challenges that entrepreneurs often confront in their intimate relationships, given the sacrifices and emotional demands of a creative endeavor.

-How to maintain your sense of self in the midst of entrepreneurial demands along with the responsibilities of marriage, and  parenting, and work.   

-How to address resentment that emerge in marriage productively.

To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights.

www.Finlayson-Fife.com

You can also listen to this episode on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, and Stitcher.

The advice offered through Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s Podcast Archive is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information.  It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care.  Although Dr. Finlayson-Fife is a trained psychotherapist, she is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these sessions, but rather using her training to inform these sessions.  Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment.  The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients; and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever.  The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease.  The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

Here are some of the specific things Dr. Finlayson-Fife addresses....

-How to function in a relationship when your spouse has narcissistic traits or tendencies.

-Where you are vulnerable when living with or loving someone who won't self-confront or change. 

-How to make sense of and address the experience of feeling more invested than your spouse. 

-How to grow in your capacity for an open hearted relationship if you tend to stay arm's length. 

-Understanding attachment or relational styles (such as being “clingy”, or “walled off” in relationship) and how to grow into a more self-sustaining and relational position.

To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights.

www.Finlayson-Fife.com

You can also listen to this episode on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, and Stitcher.

The advice offered through Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s Podcast Archive is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information.  It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care.  Although Dr. Finlayson-Fife is a trained psychotherapist, she is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these sessions, but rather using her training to inform these sessions.  Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment.  The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients; and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever.  The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease.  The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

-The importance of spiritual maturity and how to achieve it.

-How to live life more honestly and in line with your integrity.

-The process of approaching obedience with wisdom.

-The true meaning of modesty and how to teach it wisely.

-How perfectionism is a counterfeit virtue, and what real goodness looks like. 

-What the fruits of spiritual maturity are.

To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights.

www.Finlayson-Fife.com

You can also listen to this episode on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, and Stitcher.

The advice offered through Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s Podcast Archive is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information.  It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care.  Although Dr. Finlayson-Fife is a trained psychotherapist, she is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these sessions, but rather using her training to inform these sessions.  Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment.  The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients; and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever.  The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease.  The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

This is part 3 of Jennifer's first-EVER podcast appearance!

Jennifer discusses the questions and findings of her research, looking at LDS women and the impact of a patriarchal religious structure on their peace with sexuality and sense of sexual agency.

The third and final part of this conversation covers the following topics...

-How to stand up for better in a sexless marriage

-How to foster desire in marriage

-Masturbation in marriage

-Erotica and pornography

To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights.

www.Finlayson-Fife.com

You can also listen to this episode on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, and Stitcher.

The advice offered through Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s Podcast Archive is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information.  It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care.  Although Dr. Finlayson-Fife is a trained psychotherapist, she is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these sessions, but rather using her training to inform these sessions.  Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment.  The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients; and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever.  The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease.  The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

This 3-part interview was Jennifer's first-EVER (and one of her most-listened-to) podcasts!

Jennifer discusses the questions and findings of her research, looking at LDS women and the impact of a patriarchal religious structure on their peace with sexuality and sense of sexual agency.

The second part of this unique conversation covers the following topics...

-How parents can teach healthy sexuality

-The impact of the language we use around sexual addiction and pornography addiction

-Low desire in women and

-How to understand fantasy 

Part 3 will be released later this week!

To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights.

www.Finlayson-Fife.com

You can also listen to this episode on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, and Stitcher.

The advice offered through Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s Podcast Archive is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information.  It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care.  Although Dr. Finlayson-Fife is a trained psychotherapist, she is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these sessions, but rather using her training to inform these sessions.  Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment.  The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients; and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever.  The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease.  The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

This 3 part interview was Jennifer's foray into podcast interviewing!  Jennifer discusses the questions and findings of her research, look at LDS women and the impact of a patriarchal religious structure on their peace with sexuality and sense of sexual agency. 

This unique conversation delves deeply into Dr. Finlayson-Fife's experiences leading up to her research, that informed her questions and perspectives that she now uses in all her most popular courses.

Parts 2 and 3 will be released later this week!

To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights.

www.Finlayson-Fife.com

You can also listen to this episode on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, and Stitcher.

The advice offered through Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s Podcast Archive is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information.  It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care.  Although Dr. Finlayson-Fife is a trained psychotherapist, she is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these sessions, but rather using her training to inform these sessions.  Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment.  The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients; and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever.  The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease.  The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

This podcast episode is for...

-Those personally struggling with unwanted pornography use.

-The spouse of someone who views pornography. 

-Anyone seeking to better understand and protect against unhealthy sexual behavior patterns.

Watch this interview on YouTube by clicking HERE.

To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights.

www.Finlayson-Fife.com