In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife speaks with Sherrae Phelps of Ten Thousand Hours of Writing Podcast about the topic of thinking for ourselves. In this episode you will learn more about how to make your own decisions based on your integrity and moral compass rather than approval of others. To hear more from Sherrae Phelps, visit her at

“One of the things that interferes with our ability to think for ourselves is our need and desire for approval—our desire for other people to acknowledge or validate what we do. The more we depend on that, the more it will distract us from our own internal compass. You don’t want to cut out the voices of other people—-that would be immoderate in the other direction. But you don’t want the voices of other people to distract you from your own compass, because your own compass is an important source of knowledge and this is a gift to us.”

–Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

Within many religions, the idea of being a disciple is encouraged and honored and viewed as a pathway for growth, wisdom, and for spiritual and emotional development. But when discipleship is misused it encourages dependency rather than independence and in turn, limits one’s growth and development and wisdom.

Discipleship is about acting not about being acted upon.

In this interview, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife talks about what it means to be a disciple that thinks and acts for themselves.

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