• Reconcilable Differences: Finding Common Ground in a Mixed-Faith Marriage

    Feeling united in marriage is a big deal, and when your worldview has too little overlap with your spouse’s, it can create a sense of loneliness and even despair. The temptation in this scenario is to try to convince your spouse to see things the “right” way (i.e. your way!). But, when we do this, we set ourselves up for a lifelong power struggle and a relationship unlikely to find common ground. On the other hand, earnestly seeking to understand your spouse’s point of view–how they see the world and why it makes sense to them–is an essential practice. Rather than demand validation of your own beliefs, seeking first to genuinely understand is a powerful skill. It opens both partners up to deeper understanding of each other and even if there isn’t “agreement” there is at a minimum more ability to work more collaboratively with differing views. I recently joined Elisa Fucci of the Elisa Fucci Show to discuss how couples can navigate their differences with wisdom and maturity, and how doing so can lead to not only finding common ground in a mixed-faith marriage, but finding higher ground.

    The Elisa Fucci Show
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  • Coaching Our Children: Self-Authoring, Belonging, and Personal Authority

    In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Tom Telford, Liza Telford, and Preston Niederhauser, hosts of the BrainSTOKE podcast, to give parents helpful guidance on how they can be loving, wise mentors as their children stumble through the sometimes turbulent transition into adulthood.

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  • Three's a Crowd [Triangulation in Relationships]

    In this NEW podcast episode, I join Heather Frazier of the Pivot Parenting Podcast to talk about triangulation in families and the negative impact that triangulation has on our children and our marriages. Listen to the full episode to learn: * What triangulation is and why it is so tempting * The three classic roles in triangled relationships—victim, perpetrator, and rescuer (and how we toggle between roles at different times) * How to distinguish between healthy triangles and unhealthy ones * How triangulation is related to codependency * How to break the pattern of triangulation when it’s undermining your relationships

    Pivot Parenting
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  • Love Over Ideology

    I am heartbroken to share with you on this Mother’s Day that recently my mom was diagnosed with a serious illness. An illness that will take her from us sooner than any of us had expected. Sherrae Phelps and I recorded this podcast episode last year, long before my mom’s diagnosis. The plan was always to publish the episode for Mother’s Day, but it feels particularly poignant to be releasing it now, in light of this diagnosis–to be celebrating my mother’s impact on me as I confront the reality of losing her. At ninety years old, my mother is a woman full of life and genuine beauty–she exemplifies feminine radiance and intuitive wisdom. Her life has demonstrated that the power of love, humility, and grace can make the world a better place. I am so grateful for her–grateful for her influence on me and on others. Grateful that she is who she is, and that she has shown up in her life the way that she has. She has given me so much.

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  • Sex Worth Wanting

    The challenges in your sexual relationship can offer a glimpse into the unhealthy dynamics playing out in your life and marriage. Understanding and addressing your role in these difficult interactions will help you create an intimate relationship that can be a place of solace for both parties—where each partner feels desired, valued, and cared for. 

In this new podcast episode, I join Melissa of the Family Brand podcast to discuss our ability to find fulfillment in sexual relationships and how couples can overcome common roadblocks that interfere with desire, passion, and connection.

    Family Brand
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  • Understanding Overfunctioning

    In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Ashlynn Mitchell of the This is Ashlynn podcast (@this.isashlynn) to help listeners better recognize how they overfunction and underfunction (that’s right, you may be doing both!) in their marriages and in parenting.

    This is Ashlynn
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  • Cutting the Apron Strings

    In this NEW PODCAST episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Heather Frazier of the Pivot Parenting podcast to talk about the many emotions that can come as parents transition into the empty nest phase of life, and how we can best support our kids as they become more independent and step out into the world. Listen to the full episode to learn more about: * Dealing with the loss of purpose and identity as we transition to the empty nesting phase * Encouraging confidence and independence in adult children * Supporting married children to leave and cleave to their partner * Making room for a new daughter or son-in-law in the family culture

    Pivot Parenting
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  • How to Talk to Your Kids (and others!) About Sex

    In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins the hosts of the Bless the Refreshments Podcast to discuss why talking about sex with our kids and spouses can be so difficult and what we can do to reduce our own anxiety about sexuality.

    Bless the Refreshments
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  • Healthy Sexual Development

    In this conversation with Michelle Larson of Uplift for Kids, Dr. Finlayson-Fife discusses what parents can do to facilitate the healthy sexual development of their children throughout every stage of development.

    Uplift
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  • Parenting a Perfectionistic Child Part 2

    This is part to of the interview Monica Packer of About Progress conducted with Carolyn Bever & Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife to discuss parenting perfectionistic children. Listen to learn more about... - How to define your role as a parent - Shifting the value from external sources to one’s internal courage - More tips on parenting your perfectionistic child - And more...

    About Progress
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  • Parenting a Perfectionistic Child Part 1

    Monica Packer of About Progress talked with Carolyn Bever & Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife to discuss parenting perfectionistic children. Listen to learn more about... - How to identify if you have a perfectionistic child - Why perfectionistic children can be over or underperforming - Separating your own sense of worth from your child’s achievements - How to illustrate the importance of failure in the process

    About Progress
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  • Parents' Hardest Questions Answered

    “Parenting is noble work, in part because you are so often reaching through the dark trying to figure out what it means to love this unique child, with their specific challenges, strengths and desires.” Dr. Finlayson-Fife joined Tina Gosney of the Parenting Through the Detour podcast to answer difficult questions that are on parents minds and souls.

    Parenting Through the Detour
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