Motherhood

This is a topic that sometimes comes up when groups of moms are together. We joke about our sex life and bemoan the fact that having little children has killed all flickers of desire in us. In fact, one of the listeners who heard that I was going to be addressing this topic on the podcast sent me this meme, and I will admit I laughed out loud when I read it: "You can thank your dad that you were born because chances are pretty good your mom was not in the mood." But all laughing and stereotypes aside, this is a really tender, sensitive topic for many women.

Monica Packer: I'm so honored to have Jennifer back. If you don't know her, well, hang tight. You're going to have your mind blown so much. This is who Jennifer is.  Dr. Finlayson-Fife: I'm Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife. I am a psychotherapist that works primarily with couples and individuals around relationship and sexuality issues. I also do a lot of teaching, both online courses and also in workshops around the country. I also do a lot of podcasting and public speaking.  Monica Packer: And my version of your intro is that you changed my life and I think you've changed thousands of...

I. Today I want to talk to you about how to best think about and relate to sexual feelings, as well as sexual feelings as they relate to pornography.  II. Generally speaking, when you are an adolescent and LDS, there are two things happening at once, that can be confusing:  A. First, you are moving towards adulthood. Your bodies are becoming capable of reproduction. You are becoming capable of romance and attraction.  1. All of this is GOOD. All of this is essential for adulthood and grown-up love.  2. At the same time, all of this creates both insecurity or  uncertainty, AND lots of con...

Dr. Finlayson-Fife was invited to be a speaker at the 2019 I Am Mom Summit to speak about maintaining a sense of sexual selfhood in motherhood. You can watch the recording below: