• The Importance of Listening

    The Importance of Listening

    I despair sometimes at the profound divisions in our country and how much difficulty we seem to have in healing them. Our political divisions are deeper and seemingly more entrenched than ever. And in the face of George Floyd’s murder and the ensuing demonstrations against police abuses, it seems that hatred and division might consume us. What does it take to create meaningful peace? How do we create peace in a diverse and often discordant society? This challenge seems all the more overwhelming when most of us struggle to create peace in our most important relationships. The ease w...

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  • What It Means to "Do Your Best"

    What It Means to "Do Your Best"

    I’ve been thinking lately about what it means to “do your best”. The reality is that we are inherently flawed and have a limited understanding of our own and others’ motivations. This impairs our ability to always do what is best or wise. There’s no getting around this. Additionally, we all have a narrative of who we are that makes our choices make sense to us, but that often are destructive to ourselves and/or others. This makes repetition of our limited choices easy, and meaningful development hard. My work is helping people see what they can’t yet see about themselves (and others),...

    Agency, Perfectionism
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  • How Do I Figure Out God's Plan For Me?

    How Do I Figure Out God's Plan For Me?

    Dr. Finlayson-fife is quoted by author Sherrae Phelps in her article "How do I figure out God's plan for me?".  Jennifer offers her thoughts under the sections Waiting for God and Moving Forward with Faith. You can view the article using the link below: http://www.ldsliving.com/What-if-You-Can-t-Figure-Out-the-Work-God-Has-for-You/s/90057 What If You Can't Figure Out God's Plan for You? by Sherrae Phelps What does God want me to do? This is a common question that is sincerely asked by individuals seeking to live a good life and wanting their actions to be in alignment with God’s wi...

    Agency, Articles/Publications, Sense of Self
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  • LDS Living Article on Submission

    LDS Living Article on Submission

    This week, LDS Living posted an article referencing an interview with Dr. Finlayson-Fife on the subject of submission.  Author Sherrae Phelps explores the theological and psychological difference between destructive submission and virtuous submission drawing on Dr. Finlayson-Fife's perspectives on the matter.  You can read the article by clicking here: http://www.ldsliving.com/When-Is-Submission-Good-and-When-Is-It-Dangerous/s/89758 When Is Submission Good and When Is It Dangerous? by Sherrae Phelps Submission has a bad reputation. As Elder Jeffery R. Holland has said, “You can be...

    Agency, Articles/Publications, Trust
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  • Sexuality and Singledom—Navigating with Clarity and Integrity

    Sexuality and Singledom—Navigating with Clarity and Integrity

    The text below was adapted from a presentation given by Dr. Finlayson-Fife at the "Of One Body" Singles Conference in New York City on May 16, 2015 When I told a friend recently that I would be presenting in NYC on Singles and Sexuality, she smiled and asked “Is there any overlap between those two topics?  What on earth are you going to talk about?” Of course, what is comical about her question is that it exposes the deep-seated desire among us, especially among those of us who are married, to pretend that the sexuality of Single Mormons does not exist, or shouldn’t exist, if one is good. We...

    Agency, Singles, Transcripts
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