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The text below was adapted from a presentation given by Dr. Finlayson-Fife at the "Of One Body" Singles Conference in New York City on May 16, 2015 To listen to the audio recording of this presentation click HERE. When I told a friend recently that I would be presenting in NYC on Singles and Sexuality, she smiled and asked “Is there any overlap between those two topics?  What on earth are you going to talk about?” Of course, what is comical about her question is that it exposes the deep-seated desire among us, especially among those of us who are married, to pretend that the sexuality of Sin...

“The ones that had a hard time really internalized this idea that sex is bad … as opposed to sex is good, but the context of marriage really matters. Those who saw it as unfeminine, that pleasure is a problem, that sexuality is an inherent problem, they had a really difficult time making it now okay, except for an accommodation of their husband’s desire, which, of course, doesn’t work long, if at all,” Finlayson-Fife said.

"Far from protecting females from seeking male approval, the rhetoric on modesty unwittingly reinforces it. At the same time we are taught that pleasing men through sexual availability is unnecessary, we are taught to please men and God by covering and suppressing our sexuality. Either way women are sexual objects." Dr. Finlayson-Fife's recent Exponent II article is quoted in this article on the topic of modesty: http://www.sltrib.com/sltrib/lifestyle/57592727-80/women-modesty-lds-mormon.html.csp?page=1

Below is an article I wrote on the LDS Modesty discourse, published in EXPONENT II Magazine.  You can read it here: (Just scroll down a few pages to find the article). http://www.exponentii.org/wp-content/uploads/2014/02/Exponent-II-Magazine_Winter-2014-Edition-4-website.pdf

"I think sexuality is God-given and fundamental to our human experience. It’s not peripheral. Our sexuality is fundamental to our spiritual and moral development. Our theology, more than any other Christian faith, teaches us that the body is fundamental to our spiritual development; we were given a body to become more like God, with all of the parts and passions of our heavenly parents."

What is the normal amount of times to have sex per week? What does it mean if I want to have sex 4x per week and my wife wants to have it once? According to some research reported by the Kinsey Institute, 13 percent of married couples reported having sex a few times per year, 45 percent reported a few times per month, 34 percent reported 2-3 times per week, and 7 percent reported four or more times per week. (Laumann, Gagnon, Michael, Michaels, 1994). That said, what matters in determining what is the right amount of sex to be having is entirely dependent upon what you desire and what ...