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I’ve been thinking lately about what it means to “do your best”. The reality is that we are inherently flawed and have a limited understanding of our own and others’ motivations. This impairs our ability to always do what is best or wise. There’s no getting around this. Additionally, we all have a narrative of who we are that makes our choices make sense to us, but that often are destructive to ourselves and/or others. This makes repetition of our limited choices easy, and meaningful development hard. My work is helping people see what they can’t yet see about themselves (and others),...

I've been thinking this summer a lot about anxiety and how *easy* it is, in the face of anxiety, to avoid the apparent source of it. When life is difficult, as it often is, the discomfort of our uncertainty and self-doubt, can lead us to step away from important issues or challenges in our lives. The problem with this of course, is that when we chronically avoid, the issues that created the anxiety in the first place, become bigger and more daunting. Soon we are swimming in feelings of powerlessness and self-doubt, and the original cause of the anxiety is harder to track down or deal with. ...

Dr. Finlayson-Fife speaks about the perils of Perfectionism with Monica Packer of the About Progress Podcast.  You can listen to this podcast episode here, and learn about About Progress Podcast here. Monica:  Many of you will know Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife as “The Mormon Sex Therapist.” Yes, she is indeed an incredible therapist who deals primarily with relational and sexual issues, but as Jennifer says her therapy focuses mostly on just being human and the challenges related to being human.  Turns out one of the largest developmental hurdles her clients often face is perfection...

In this interview with Anne Nelson, Dr. Finlayson-Fife addresses the following topics: How body image affects sexuality and the capacity for intimacy. How to have a healthy sexual relationship if you’ve experienced sexual abuse. How to rebuild trust after infidelity. How to offer your kids a healthy understanding of their sexuality.

In this discussion with the producers of The Betrayed, The Addicted & The Expert, Dr. Finlayson-Fife talks about how religious belief can handicap sexual integration. She also talks about how one can embrace faith and sexuality and what constitutes the difference in religious orientation.

*This blogpost was created from the transcript of the recent Facebook Live video on the topic infidelity.  Today I'm going to be talking a bit about infidelity and deception in partnerships as well as what is required to re-establish trust with a spouse. Following any evidence of untrustworthiness in marriage, we usually hope to re-establish trust rather quickly because we don't like not being able to trust our partners.  We want to believe we are safe. We want to believe we understand the person we are with. So re-establishing trust becomes our focus and desire often but this focus may inter...