• The Importance of Listening

    The Importance of Listening

    I despair sometimes at the profound divisions in our country and how much difficulty we seem to have in healing them. Our political divisions are deeper and seemingly more entrenched than ever. And in the face of George Floyd’s murder and the ensuing demonstrations against police abuses, it seems that hatred and division might consume us. What does it take to create meaningful peace? How do we create peace in a diverse and often discordant society? This challenge seems all the more overwhelming when most of us struggle to create peace in our most important relationships. The ease w...

    Agency, Listening, Love
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  • What It Means to "Do Your Best"

    What It Means to "Do Your Best"

    I’ve been thinking lately about what it means to “do your best”. The reality is that we are inherently flawed and have a limited understanding of our own and others’ motivations. This impairs our ability to always do what is best or wise. There’s no getting around this. Additionally, we all have a narrative of who we are that makes our choices make sense to us, but that often are destructive to ourselves and/or others. This makes repetition of our limited choices easy, and meaningful development hard. My work is helping people see what they can’t yet see about themselves (and others),...

    Agency, Integrity, Perfectionism, Self-Confrontation
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  • Anxiety and Avoidance

    Anxiety and Avoidance

    I've been thinking this summer a lot about anxiety and how *easy* it is, in the face of anxiety, to avoid the apparent source of it. When life is difficult, as it often is, the discomfort of our uncertainty and self-doubt, can lead us to step away from important issues or challenges in our lives. The problem with this of course, is that when we chronically avoid, the issues that created the anxiety in the first place, become bigger and more daunting. Soon we are swimming in feelings of powerlessness and self-doubt, and the original cause of the anxiety is harder to track down or deal with. ...

    Anxiety
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  • "The Perils of Perfectionism" with Dr. Finlayson-Fife,  Podcast Transcript

    "The Perils of Perfectionism" with Dr. Finlayson-Fife, Podcast Transcript

    Dr. Finlayson-Fife speaks about the perils of Perfectionism with Monica Packer of the About Progress Podcast.  You can listen to this podcast episode here, and learn about About Progress Podcast here. Monica:  Many of you will know Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife as “The Mormon Sex Therapist.” Yes, she is indeed an incredible therapist who deals primarily with relational and sexual issues, but as Jennifer says her therapy focuses mostly on just being human and the challenges related to being human.  Turns out one of the largest developmental hurdles her clients often face is perfection...

    Perfectionism, Transcripts of Podcasts
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  • Marriage Mastery Summit - Full Length Video

    Marriage Mastery Summit - Full Length Video

    In this interview with Anne Nelson, Dr. Finlayson-Fife addresses the following topics: How body image affects sexuality and the capacity for intimacy. How to have a healthy sexual relationship if you’ve experienced sexual abuse. How to rebuild trust after infidelity. How to offer your kids a healthy understanding of their sexuality.

    Abuse, Body Image, Infidelity, Talking to Kids, Trust, Videos
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  • Understanding Compulsive Sexuality, Betrayal and Sexual Integrity

    Understanding Compulsive Sexuality, Betrayal and Sexual Integrity

    In this discussion with the producers of The Betrayed, The Addicted & The Expert, Dr. Finlayson-Fife talks about how religious belief can handicap sexual integration. She also talks about how one can embrace faith and sexuality and what constitutes the difference in religious orientation.

    Addiction, Betrayal, Female Sexuality, Infidelity, Male Sexuality, Pornography, Videos
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