• Sexuality and Singledom—Navigating with Clarity and Integrity

    Sexuality and Singledom—Navigating with Clarity and Integrity

    The text below was adapted from a presentation given by Dr. Finlayson-Fife at the "Of One Body" Singles Conference in New York City on May 16, 2015 When I told a friend recently that I would be presenting in NYC on Singles and Sexuality, she smiled and asked “Is there any overlap between those two topics?  What on earth are you going to talk about?” Of course, what is comical about her question is that it exposes the deep-seated desire among us, especially among those of us who are married, to pretend that the sexuality of Single Mormons does not exist, or shouldn’t exist, if one is good. We...

    Agency, Singles, Transcripts
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  • Salt Lake Tribune Article on Modesty

    Salt Lake Tribune Article on Modesty

    "Far from protecting females from seeking male approval, the rhetoric on modesty unwittingly reinforces it. At the same time we are taught that pleasing men through sexual availability is unnecessary, we are taught to please men and God by covering and suppressing our sexuality. Either way women are sexual objects." Dr. Finlayson-Fife's recent Exponent II article is quoted in this article on the topic of modesty: http://www.sltrib.com/sltrib/lifestyle/57592727-80/women-modesty-lds-mormon.html.csp?page=1

    Articles/Publications, Body Image, Modesty
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  • Exponent II Article on Modesty

    Exponent II Article on Modesty

    Below is an article I wrote on the LDS Modesty discourse, published in EXPONENT II Magazine.  You can read it here: (Just scroll down a few pages to find the article). http://www.exponentii.org/wp-content/uploads/2014/02/Exponent-II-Magazine_Winter-2014-Edition-4-website.pdf

    Articles/Publications, Female Sexuality, Modesty
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  • Q & A - What is The Normal Amount of Times to Have Sex Per Week?

    Q & A - What is The Normal Amount of Times to Have Sex Per Week?

    What is the normal amount of times to have sex per week? What does it mean if I want to have sex 4x per week and my wife wants to have it once? According to some research reported by the Kinsey Institute, 13 percent of married couples reported having sex a few times per year, 45 percent reported a few times per month, 34 percent reported 2-3 times per week, and 7 percent reported four or more times per week. (Laumann, Gagnon, Michael, Michaels, 1994). That said, what matters in determining what is the right amount of sex to be having is entirely dependent upon what you desire and what ...

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  • Q & A - Sexless Marriage

    Q & A - Sexless Marriage

    I have been in a sex-less marriage for 20 years. We had sex a little bit during the first year of marriage, but after the birth of our daughter, she became uninterested. I love my wife, but the kids are beginning to leave home and it's painful for me to think about the lack of intimacy that exists between us. We get along well, it is friendly and compatible, but there is no passion between us. She finds sex uncomfortable and awkward, probably even aversive. I have been reluctant to put pressure on her over the years, but I'm not sure what to do. I'm not willing to break my marriage vows or lea...

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